Hi,
I was born in Pakistan and moved to the USA in 2000. I am a US citizen.

I went to Pakistan and got married under pressure.

I was treated very badly at that time.

The marriage was never consummated.

I came back to the USA in a bad state.

Again, under pressure, I returned to Pakistan to see if the marriage coule work out.
I was again treated very badly. The locked me up, they took my money, my jewerly and they took my clothes. They would not let me go back to America.

With the help of an uncle I was finally able to arrange to get back the USA.

My father will not help me to get a divorce.

I am 25 years of age and I need help.

Can anyone help me?

Farah

Well I have read your problem. Your were treated badly. Well I don't know Why your family treat you bad. Do u love some one? The question rise why you want to get divorce. If u are willing to get divorce you can contact with a lawyer. He will help you out. In case if you don't have intercourse with your man for more then 3 months or longer then you are not in Neeka any more. I am not sure but I heard it.

Farah,

Get a lawyer and possibly one who has muslim background.
Explain that the marriage was forced and carried out without consent and that it was never consummated.

And also that the family is mistreating you and that you need an Islamic divorce, where your husband has to let you go in a good and just manner without any fights.

I like yours suggestion but there is one point . If her husband don't want to give her divorce he has right . Instead of divorce he will give her khula ( which is like he will pay money to her. Also he will pay the amount which he mentioned in neeka papers). I wish she will get divorce.

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Originally Posted by pukhtoon001

i like yours suggestion but there is one point . If her husband dont want to give her divorce he has right . instead of divorce he will give her khula ( which is like he will pay money to her. aslo he will pay the amount which he mentioned in neeka papers). I wish she will get divorce.

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She has a right to divorce too.
And yes she must be given the promised (maher) money which was promised at the beginning of their marriage.

I have not heard of "Khula", what is that?

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Originally Posted by firmbeliever

She has a right to divorce too.
And yes she must be given the promised (maher) money which was promised at the beginning of their marriage.

I have not heard of "Khula", what is that?

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I admit she have right to get divorce. If her husband don't want to give her divorce then khula. Khula is something like both will seprate but he will pay her living expenses or in case kids he will pay to kids montly. Proplem in khula she can't marry someone.

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Originally Posted by pukhtoon001

I admit she have right to get divorce. if her husband dont want to give her divorce then khula. Khula is some thing like both will seprate but he will pay her living expenses or in case kids he will pay to kids montly. Proplem in khula she can't marry someone.

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When women are divorced they have a right to marry another and the divorced husband cannot have a hold over the ex-wife.

Muslim women when divorced has to wait a certain period called "Iddat", which is to determine if she is pregnant.
If she is pregnant then the divorced husband has to look after her expenses until the child is born and then make arrangements of expenses for the child thereafter.

EDIT::
I found the following and I think I understand what you mean by the payments and not being properly divorced.
Now I have learnt something new.Thank you.
Islam Question and Answer - Examples of acceptable reasons for asking one's husband for khula'
Islam Question and Answer - Khula': definition and how it is done

If you were not willing this can't be considered as a marriage. I would suggest you to launch a case against your in-laws who snatched your money and maltreated you.

AOA
DEAR FARAH
UNDER PAKISTAN LAW ACT IF U Don't WANT TO LIVE WITH UR HUSBAND U CAN GET A DIVORCE AT THE COST OF UR "HAQ MAHER"

Here I'm posting a link which may help u
http://www.tahseenbutt.com/divorce_lawyers_pakistan.html

MAY ALLAH HELP U
Regards
Zeeshan yousaf

Fahar I can help u OK don't wory its my mail you can contact me as soon as . OK [email protected]

Farah its me waseem I read your problems and I think I can help you so please centact me . [email protected]

DEAR FARAH

IF YOU Don't WANT TO LIVE WITH UR HUSBAND U CAN GET A DIVORCE AT THE COST OF UR "HAQ MAHER" OR Alumni / Maitenance Allowance
Or one of the many other Grounds, in a fast and speady manner From Pakistan
Here I'm posting a link which may help u

pk.linkedin.com/in/pakistanilawyer

MAY ALLAH HELP U

Regards

Saba From Canada

Dear Farah I had similar issue like you. I dissolved my marriage and get divorce through Pakistani Court without going to Pakistan. I contacted this law firm in Pakistan and I am satisfied from their services. I hope they will help you.

Ashraf & Ashraf Law Firm
http://www.ashraflawfirm.com


Regards,
Amna