Well ladies and gentlemen, It has almost been 2 months since no contact and 3 sincethe break up. There is a lot of drama going on but I'm rising above it. My advice to all ofthese fresh break ups is "in time it will get easier" As you fresh heart broken people read this you will say yeah but my situation is different. I thought the same thing.. My story is intense and I what I posted on here was only a nut shell. That being said Im doing well. I still think about her but I'm starting to feel better. Yes I still love her and yes I would love to make it work but I don't havethe control to do so.. And really people that is what you must understand! c You cannot control the situation all you can do is take the power back by moving on and not caring.. Even if you care just get out and move on with your life. When they see that what ever they do has no affect on you that is when you will get a reaction. Do I believe she will come back yes.. But that is a choice I will make when that time arises. For now I'm enjoying being single and having a blast and I suggest you do the same.. Just because I believe she will be back does not mean I have false hope. Im not waiting for her to come back I just know she will come back.. For men and women this al apllies. Move on!! It is even hard for me to believe what I say but it is the best. Reinvent yourself. Buy some new clothes, go out give yourself some cofindence back.. Make yourself who you want to be.. Never try to make someone else happy unless your happier..

Good luck all


It gets easier with time... I thought it was a load of BS but I've been keeping myself insanely busy and I feel good that I'm being productive..

Have a nice day and happy late thanksgving.

No words of encouragement. Lol. Come on people, I should have had a few good jobs, keep it up lol.

Ok... I'll give you a "Great Job"!! Way to go!! Keep up the productiveness!


However, thanksgiving isn't until next moth... so Happy early Halloween :) Trick or Treat?

Actually I'm in canada and our thanksgiving wasthis weekend . o.O

Lol... good job, I hope it get easyer for me as well

I'm glad for you! It's also been 3 months since my ex left me and at first I thought I would never get over the hurt I have been feeling. I still miss her and I still do love her but I am like you, I believe that she will be in my life again someday. She's already in another relationship has been for a month after she left me, but I still think she may come back. But I am moving on with my life. I don't think about her quite as often and I don't cry everday like I used to so that's a step for me. The no contact is what I was having a problem with, at first I would email her here and there, but the last email was about 3 weeks ago when she told me of her new relationship, I kind of told her off! So after that I decided that I wasn't going to contact her anymore and if she contacts me in the future well then I will take it from there. I know it's crazy to think she isn't out of my life but after investing 2 years of my life to be with her I want to believe that she will be back. But I am not putting my life on hold anymore, and if she does or doesn't contact me well then it will be her loss.

Yeah.. I have my ups and downs. I get a lot of encouraging support. She is lost. In my opinion. We have been off and on and all the times I would always chase her but this time I have had enough. She is in a LDR and I know it won't last. But my concern is when she comes back I need to be strong enough to say no. I will never allow another human being to have this much control over my emoition. Me not contacting her at al isdeffinatly out of character for me. And I'm not about to contact her just two get 30 secs of glory just to throw away my 2 months of no contact.. Everday is a new challenge. I will say this though, it has changed my views on a lot ofthings and is making megrow as a person. If her and I ever get back together I will def. handlethings dif but I'm not holding on to the hope of her coming back I just know she will be back. But this time its my turn to say no. Im not playing games, but when she comes back I'm going to show her that I will not put up with this non sense. Its either commitment time or keep going. I try to stay positive but sometimes it is tough.

I know how you feel about letting someone having so much control over your emotions. I never thought I would let someone have this affect on me like she did. I guess that's what love does to people. It is tough staying positive. One minute I am fine and then something will remind me of her and I lose it. Sometimes I still can't believe the whole break up happened, but we have to stay strong. I just wish I would get to the point of not caring anymore. I know one day it will happen, but for now I just can't stop caring about her. That's what hurts the most because I know she is with someone else. I wish I could be like you and say no if she came back, but to be honest I wasn't perfect in the relationship and there is so much I would do different if I had the chance. I probably would want a 2nd chance if she gave it to me. She wasn't perfect either but I am willing to give her a 2nd chance. Anyway just stay strong and be true to yourself and everything will work out for the best. That's what I keep telling myself. It's difficult now but I have faith that if it's meant to be then these people will cross our paths again one day, and if they don't well just knowing my ex has made me a better person so I did get something out of the relationship anyway.

I like you guys' conversations. At least I know I'm not alone in this damned world.

Congrats on making it 3 months. That's where I am. No contact works wonders. I too am feeling so much better. I still miss him a lot but I don't cry constantly anymore and I feel like I have my power back. The fact is I never knew I had made this man my whole life. I just thought we were in this really great relationship and as far as I was concerned we were making a great life together. It hadn't occurred to me that he could just up and leave for someone else. We seemed to be that secure. It wasn't until he left that I realized that my every waking moment was so absolutely focused on him that I had forgotten to focus on myself. Sad but true. I'm not going to set here and say I don't still think about him, and wonder if he is truly happy with his new girl and his new life because I do. But the focus has shifted in my favor. I need to think about me. I know he can't just forget about the past 7 years, and I think it has to haunt him at times. Our relationship was never rough or rocky so all he and I are left with are happy memories. In fact I'm sure some of those memories are going to come back and bite him in the butt if she doesn't turn out to be all that he thought she was going to be.

P.S. Doesn't it feel great that we are finally strong enough to tell them HELL NO!! If we choose to that is

Well done crushed , I'm real proud of you!!