Ask Me Help Desk - Me and him

I am 12 turning 13 but me brothers best friend licks me a lot but he is 17. I know he won't touch me in any bad way because my brother let me go out with him one night when he was drinking at a party and he took me out in the woods and just kissed me. He respects me a lot but I want to do something with him but I am scared to get pregnant or get him into trouble plus my mom does not know about us together and I am scared to tell he:o

Please don't make the wrong choices for your life. I did when I was 13. If this boy really likes you and respects you he will wait. You are worth more than you know and you are worth waiting for. There is more for you than just feeling good for a moment. Please respect yourself and wait. Sex just messes up your life if when you don't wait.

Thank you and he does repect me and he will wait for me he has for a year now I love him my birthday is next Monday and we will be together

Wait until you get married. I did not and ended up suicidal and hating myself for giving in to a boy.

A woman should NEVER have sex just because she loves someone. Nobody, male or female, should have sex unless they are financially, physically and emotionally prepared to have a child - AND... in making that decision, they should consider that they COULD have twins (or more) with physical and/or emotional disabilities.

Here are some facts that you should consider... NO birth control is 100% effective other than abstinence. People who are under 25 that have children have a higher rate of having a baby with medical problems and learning disabilities. Having a teenaged pregnancy does not just have an effect upon you until the child leaves home, but carries that effect into your child, your parents, your siblings, your grandparents, your partner's family, and, in time, your child's children and grandchildren. Children born to parents who are under 25 are more than 70% more likely to live in poverty.

Now, for another side of it... this 17 year old boy COULD be arrested (at least in North America) for having a relationship with you. If you love each other, you should both allow each other to move on to other things/people until you are legally out of danger. For both of you, seeing other people will prepare you for a more serious relationship and life in general. At 12, 13 or even 14, 15 or 16 you are too young to devote your life to one guy. You have too much to experience first.

I do NOT doubt that you love him. I just think a more mature love can develop if you handle this appropriately. Oh, by the way... you will find people under the age of 25 who will disagree with all of some of what I say. That is because they haven't had to experience the negative side of it yet. I am 53 years old. I was married and had two children before I was 18. I know what I am talking about from first hand experience and from years of working with kids your age. I hope you think long and hard about this and don't make a decision that will probably destroy your life, as well as the lives of others.

Love, Didi

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Originally Posted by iloveaboy

thank u and he does repect me and he will wait for me he has for a year now i love him my bday is next monday and we will be together

Turning 13 is a big deal at this point in your life, but he's still 17 and that makes this very dangerous. Please be cautious and let your mom know what's going on. If you continue to keep it a secret it could be really bad in the future when they find out. Being a little more open with mom sounds scary, but it might turn out to be a good thing after all.

Your brother should be smacked upside the head for allowing that 17 year old boy to take you anywhere and that boy needs to b smacked as well. My brother would not let any of his friends look at me let alone take me anywhere when I was that age.
I know you think you're in love, but that boy is too old for you to be messing around with. You are too young to be dating. I think you're scared to tell your mom because you know you should not be doing it.
Wanting to have sex and needing to have sex are two different things. 13 year girls don't need to have sex.
Can this boy take care of you and a child if you get pregnant? Can you deal with this boy taking your virginity one day and dumping you the next? Are you ready to handle all of the emotional ramifications of having sex? Probably not.
Let your mother know what is going on.
Boy I wish I could get my hands on that brother of yours. How old is he?