Hi all,

I broke up with a guy 4 months ago, we were friends for 3 years and we started to go out. Early on in our relationship he got panicky about getting physical and decided he didn't want to see me anymore, it was very unexpected and I got the whole "it wasnt me it was him". Anyway after that I begged and pleaded with him to try again, he said he couldn't and eventually his emails got colder and briefer, so finally I just stopped. I still have feelings for him even though he was mean to me, and recently I emailed him to ask him for something and he replied, I didn't email him back so he emailed again. It has taken all my strength not to but I knew he was like poison for me (I was unwell over the summer, emotionally). So I thought by starting a great new research opportunity at a good university I would be able to forget, however a mutual friend of ours (more mine than his) bumped into him and he told her how stressed he is in his job (he usually moaned to me about his job) and that he said Hi to our group of friends. Even though I would rather contract syphillis then be near him again it would make me feel a little happier knowing that he regrets his decision, what do you think?

For your own sake, quit concerning yourself with what's going on in his head. And no, I don't think he regrets his decision. If he did, he'd be in contact with you.

No don't concern yourself with his worries - concentrate on yourself - after all you are number one! :)

I agree with them. If you don't want to see him or be around him anymore, why bother at all? Try to stop thinking about him completely. After a while, you'll have nothing to worry about. :)
And if he did regret it... then he'll always try contacting you later, even if it takes him a while.

Thanks guys, you are all right. It is getting better, I guess I'm looking for closure and have thought he could offer me this. Xx