Ask Me Help Desk - Confused please help me asap

OK well I have a new boyfriend and I was hanging out with my friends and he called to see if I wanted to go and see a movie but I told him I couldn't because my friends were over and to call me later and he did but I wasn't home and then when I called him the next day we talked for like 15 min and he said he had to go eat and hed call me back but he didn't and then I saw hima t school and he said hi to me and stuff but I didn't get to talk to him because the bell rang before I could.and he hasent called me yet tonight and he ushllay does.so I don't know what to do.do you guys think he is mad at me do you think he is going to break up with me. The reason I'm asking is because I just had a really bad break up and I can't take another one right now so please help me please asap I'm going crazy

Well I don't know how much this will help but here's my two cents.

I've been in his shoes before, and speaking from experience, if he's upset at all he probabbly is a little confused and you can clear that up but talking to him and explaining you are sorry for not getting a hold of him sooner. He probably is just frustrated and the sooner you get in touch with him the better.

Just be honest and let him know how important he is to you.. and if he's any kind of a guy at all he'll listen.

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Originally Posted by cutie08

ok well i have a new bf and i was hanging out with my friends and he called to see if i wanted to go and see a movie but i told him i couldnt because my friends WRONG ANSWER were over and to call me later and he did but i wasnt home WRONG AGAIN and then when i called him the next day we talked for like 15 min DID YOU TELL HIM WHERE YOU WERE? and he said he had to go eat and hed call me back but he didnt and then i saw hima t school and he said hi to me and stuff but i didnt get to talk to him because the bell rang before i could.and he hasent called me yet tonight and he ushllay does.so i dont kno wat to do.do you guys think he is mad at me do you think he is going to break up with me. the reason im asking is because i just had a really bad break up and i can't take another one right now so please help me please asap im goin crazy

You already had a bad breakup and you can't take another one or you will go crazy? Did you put your 'friends' first in that relationship too? If you knew he was going to call you again, why did you leave? Hello?? Put yourself in their shoes for a few minutes, then think about how you'd feel being rejected for friends, and not getting an answer when you call. Then not even an apology? You'd go off on him like white on rice. Get ready for more breakups if you continue to be selfish and disrespectful. You just got together and he wanted to share a movie with you, but you had to be with your friends - hope they were worth it - you'll be spending more time than you like with them because the guys will not put up with this behavior for too long. Sorry dear, but sometimes you have to give a little to get some back. A relationship goes both ways, and I think he was really civil towards you in school. If I were a man, I would have just left you standing there and forget about you. If you cannot figure out why he has not called yet, you need some serious attitude checking. If you are a popular girl in school, and think that just because you give the guy the time of day he should be grateful, then sorry, you are on the road to loneliness and should not be surprised.
If you really feel for this guy, as much as you young people can feel, then you must take steps to make him feel special (I don't mean sexually), but when outside with your 'friends' and he walks by, leave them and go to him, put your arm in his, ask him how his day is going, compliment his hair, shoes, or something else, but pay attention to him before the bell rings again. I just hope you still have a chance with this one. But if not, please think about these things before going on to another. Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by cutie08

the reason im asking is because i just had a really bad break up and i can't take another one right now so please help me please asap im goin crazy

Well, what exactly are your intentions with this new boyfriend? One of two things are going to happen ; either you're going to eventually marry this guy or you're eventually going to break up with each other. Now, I've always been the #1 critic of people who avoid relationships "for fear of getting hurt". However, I sense in your post that the two of you are fairly young, probably high school age. Furthermore, I get the impression that your relationship with this new "boyfriend" is a very casual, come-and-go type of situation and that's certainly appropriate for someone your age. There's certainly no need for you to "go crazy" over this. It sounds like this guy might be a little unsure of himself at this point (as a lot of guys his age would be), so you really don't want to get yourself all tied up around his insecurities. Continue to be friendly with him and others, as I'm sure you are already and enjoy your social life without putting a lot of pressure on yourself for any kind of intensely intimate relationship as that'll happen in its own time.