Anyone read SHE COMES FIRST?
Just curious if anyone here has also read She Comes First: A Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman?
Like most sexual/sensual "help" books, it isn't a "perfect" one-method-for-all recipe that teaches a man how to pleasure a woman orally, but its not a bad little read and gets you thinking.
My partner stumbled across it in a big box store with me a couple of months ago. She then teased me with the question early on in the writing "did you know the clitoris has eighteen parts...can you identify them?" knowing damn well this would irritate me. no... not in my anatomy, physiology, nor my developmental embryology class did they ever identify eighteen parts of the clitoris. What a hell of a lab practical that wouldve been.
Anyway... its holds to the belief that I've had for a long time... if you want a woman to reach orgasm, oral sex is often the best bet... doesn't mean intercourse is dropped, it means oral first, then intercourse or other depending on your mood, wants, etc... and he spends the first half of the book telling you why you should think this way, what it can do for you and your partner... isn't until halfway through that you get into the physical aspects... granted, you need to be aware of the mental process for this, but I think he takes a little long to try to convince you it's a good idea...
... and while, again, I don't think there is any perfect recipe, even one woman can want different things at different times, I think its worth a look at. When a woman reads some of the book and looks at you and says "this guy knows how to go down... read chapter 23 and on"... you take notice.
We've had good success with oral stim, but I'm not so closed minded that I'm not willing to learn about how to make things better in the bedroom.
One note... while I think it might be good for anyone of any experience to read, I worry it might make a newcomer intimidated when he gets into the general "routine" that he thinks works best. There are a lot of errogenous zones he refers to, and the newcomer might be too intimidated to really experience the moment or be thinking too hard that they might ignore their partners cues.
But again, knowledge is good. I think it got my partner thinking about what we do that works and what we could do to make things better.
The next book he wrote is "he comes next"... we haven't had a chance to scope that one out yet, but I'm guessing it'll probably get a look at and if its interesting will be added to our "library" of sensual/sexual reads.
Anyway... the question still is "anybody here read it"?
