Well last night I was chilling with my ex girl I gave her some stuff and she asked to help her with her phone and took it and put a picture on there but then I went into her contacts and saw the numbers of 2 guys I don't like one her ex and the other a 34+ yeas old enough to be her dad still with his number she is 20 years old and I'm 25 she got mad cause I deleted there number but she lied about one of the numbers being her brothers friends when I saw that was her ex's email address with it?? I MEAN I ADMITTED TO Doing IT AND I Didn't LIE AT ALL but she fliped on me and told she was done and that I do this too much and she didn't want to be bothered I mean what should I do?? I told sorry will not help I do admit I have messed up alo but she has lied to me before about her ex's tellingme she don't talk to them but they numbers in her phone? So what should I do she don't care for me or as she said I'm not her man so don't have to worry. Mean I'm depressed cause I know I ed up but is she wrong for lying too me on the phone and in my face about not talking to them, every time I turn around she addeds them as friends on Facebook or myspace and swears she don't talk to them. AND TO ANSWER YA QUESTION WE STILL HAVE SEX WITH EACH OTHER FORM TIME TO TIME IS THAT WHY IT HURTS SO MUCH??

Right in my life I have nobody to love anymore I'm 24 b 25 oct 21st and I'm so alone I couldn't even keep her for a year we were on and off for a year sept 17th 2006 to sept 17th 2007 we even nearly had a baby but he's most likely not mine DNA TEST PENDING.
I feel like such a loser and a failure I give my all and I got nothing in return from her. AM I Going BE ALONE THE REST OF MY LIFE??

Jon,

I have to be perfectly honest with you here, okay?

She is your EX!! What she has in her phone is her business, not yours. She has every right to be mad at you.

Leave her alone until that baby is born and you get the results back. If it's yours, take responsibility, if it's not, she's out of your life forever.

I was in a situation similar to that. I was hanging out with my ex again as friends. He was always asking me about other guys and going through my cell phone. He would actually respond to any text messages he didn't like and tell them that I was with him. In my situation he was very very possessive and controlling. I felt like I had to keep things from him not to upset him because honestly I was afraid of what he would do.

She is your ex girlfriend. I understand you care for her but its obvious that she is moving on in a direction that doesn't involve you romantically so why waste any more of your time hurting yourself and stressing yourself out about it. Deleting a number isn't going to fix the problem. There will always be more to replace it.

You won't be alone the rest of your life. You just have to be patient & trust that life will lead you in the right direction. Everything happens for a reason and a purpose. Life will reveal it to you soon enough. Until then you just need to focus on you. Keep your head up! I hope this helps.

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Originally Posted by J_9

Jon,

I have to be perfectly honest with you here, okay?

She is your EX!!! What she has in her phone is her business, not yours. She has every right to be mad at you.

Leave her alone until that baby is born and you get the results back. If it's yours, take responsibility, if it's not, she's out of your life forever.

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Yeah but I need her back in my life and I know I was wrong OK

Why do you NEED her back in your life? Need is a pretty strong word. Especially considering your past.

What you NEED to do is move on until you get that paternity test back. You need to get yourself healthy before you two should ever consider being a couple again.

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I was in a situation similar to that. I was hanging out with my ex again as friends. He was always asking me about other guys and going through my cell phone. He would actually respond to any text messages he didn't like and tell them that I was with him. In my situation he was very very possessive and controlling. I felt like I had to keep things from him not to upset him b/c honestly I was afraid of what he would do.

She is your ex gf. I understand you care for her but its obvious that she is moving on in a direction that doesn't involve you romantically so why waste any more of your time hurting yourself and stressing yourself out about it. Deleting a number isn't going to fix the problem. There will always be more to replace it.

You won't be alone the rest of your life. You just have to be patient & trust that life will lead you in the right direction. Everything happens for a reason and a purpose. Life will reveal it to you soon enough. Until then you just need to focus on you. Keep your head up!! I hope this helps.

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BUT WE STILL HAVE SEX

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Why do you NEED her back in your life? Need is a pretty strong word. Especially considering your past.

What you NEED to do is move on until you get that paternity test back. You need to get yourself healthy before you two should ever consider being a couple again.

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Listen since we broke up my life has been different I can't eat or sleep right I lost interest in college and work and she was the longest relationship I ever had

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BUT WE STILL HAVE SEX

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Then she's not your ex?

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Then she's not your ex?

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Umm to her we are not together from what she told me I been sexing her very good

Oh lordy, well you need to decide what you want. It sounds like you are just waiting for her to get serious with you again and it sounds like that is not what she wants.

You really need to move on and find someone new and not worry who your ex is dating. Constantly seeing her and having sex is just making you feel closer to her but it's obvious she has moved on. I'd cut all contact, it will be painful at first but you'll feel better soon and can look for a new girl who will be with you and only you.