I have dated a girl for about four years. One day out of no where, she breaks up with me with no explanation. Since, I have prayed for God to work out things between me and her. After three months of waiting, I got to talk to her, and she told me that the reason she broke off with me was because my ex wife told her a lot of bad things about me (evil lies)and her mom told her if she would come back with me she will start smoking which will cause health complication. The day I saw her, she said she no longer loved me, but her action showed otherwise. I love her a lot. What should I do? Since she has called about four time, with blame excuses.

Move on. Get involved with living and accept that it's over. If a woman loves a man she will move heaven and earth to be with him no matter what her family thinks or what stories she has heard. She probably cares... it's hard not to if you date someone for 4 years, but she doesn't love you the way you need and deserve to be loved. Consider that if you prayed to God to work things out that it is exactly what has happened. Things being worked out for the two of you does not necessarily mean that you will be together.

Hugs, Didi

My friend stop waiting for something that is not yours because you might regret. If someone truly loves you they will not side with third party opinions. Move on, there is somebody out there who truly loves you and is waiting for you.

Move on... no need to repeat what grammadidi said so well.

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Originally Posted by grammadidi

Move on. Get involved with living and accept that it's over. If a woman loves a man she will move heaven and earth to be with him no matter what her family thinks or what stories she has heard. She probably cares... it's hard not to if you date someone for 4 years, but she doesn't love you the way you need and deserve to be loved. Consider that if you prayed to God to work things out that it is exactly what has happened. Things being worked out for the two of you does not necessarily mean that you will be together.

Hugs, Didi

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Thanks I just feel that my life is gone. I have prayed and have faith that GOD will have mercy over us.

Your life is NOT gone, Oscar. Here's the scoop. You will meet and fall in love with many young ladies. Relationships will end as one of you discovers that the things that you love about each other are wonderful, but the things that you don't like about each other cannot be ignored. Sometimes you will end a relationship, other times your partner will. However, both of you will learn and draw from each experience until you finally discover exactly what it is that will make you happiest. Then you will begin choosing a partner who more closely fits your ideals. Eventually, you will find the woman who has been waiting and looking for someone like you... and you will have found the woman that you will spend the rest of your life with.

It does no good to try to force it. If you push for a relationship that really isn't meant to be, it will eventually fall apart. However, if you continue to grow and learn and share with others, you will eventually experience what very, very few people do. You WILL meet that person when it is time. In the meantime, you must learn to love yourself, to be happy within your own heart, etc. That is why I said that right now you need to let go and get involved with living. The more you do that, the more you will have to offer the right woman. I promise you... it IS worth it. Focus on the positive things in life and the rest will all fall into place. You sure as heck don't want to give up before you meet the one who you can share such a deep and perfect love with, do you?? I think not. Trust in God if you really believe... and remember, life is what you make it!

Hugs, Didi

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Originally Posted by grammadidi

Your life is NOT gone, Oscar. Here's the scoop. You will meet and fall in love with many young ladies. Relationships will end as one of you discovers that the things that you love about each other are wonderful, but the things that you don't like about each other cannot be ignored. Sometimes you will end a relationship, other times your partner will. However, both of you will learn and draw from each experience until you finally discover exactly what it is that will make you happiest. Then you will begin choosing a partner who more closely fits your ideals. Eventually, you will find the woman who has been waiting and looking for someone like you... and you will have found the woman that you will spend the rest of your life with.

It does no good to try to force it. If you push for a relationship that really isn't meant to be, it will eventually fall apart. However, if you continue to grow and learn and share with others, you will eventually experience what very, very few people do. You WILL meet that person when it is time. In the meantime, you must learn to love yourself, to be happy within your own heart, etc. That is why I said that right now you need to let go and get involved with living. The more you do that, the more you will have to offer the right woman. I promise you... it IS worth it. Focus on the positive things in life and the rest will all fall into place. You sure as heck don't want to give up before you meet the one who you can share such a deep and perfect love with, do you??? I think not. Trust in God if you really believe... and remember, life is what you make it!

Hugs, Didi

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You should listen to everything she said!

If your ex can break up a 4 year relationship, then you really didn't have one. Sorry, move past this, and find some one else. Accept that it is over and find your own happiness and some one will want to share it with you.

What they said... lot of truth there.