I've been with my partner for 8 months and since that time I've been faking orgasm. It's been effecting me and my relationship as I believe that a healthy relationship needs a healthy sex life as well. I'm hesitating on how I should deliver the message to him, should I tell him that I'm not having orgasm from now on, would that make him think what has changed, or maybe I should confess to him that I never really had one since we started being intimate.

Tell him the truth. Tell him you want to feel complete and that lying is not helping either of you.

Ask him to help you out-tell him sex makes you complete and he will feel better when he can get you to climax as well-im sure. All will be much better for you if you choose honesty.

If this doesn't work out-maybe just learn to masturbate as often as you need it-even if he hates it-then tell him to "fix" it with some extra care and attention

Have you faked such before your present relationship?

You need to talk to him. Find out what you both like . You can't fake it forever and it will only make you resentful if you try.

Faking orgasm? Why would any woman in her right mind do that?

If the relationship is based on sex, then you should leave because you're not getting what you want. If the relationship is based on emotion, then you should honestly communicate your needs so your partner can work with you to achieve them.

That said, my completely unprofessional advice would be to stop faking (ie lying). Tell him when you don't come and even suggest to him what he can do to help you reach orgasm. If the guy is worth being with, he'll be willing to try new things to please you.

Sounds like you basically screwed yourself. Why on earth would anyone do that?

I think you should just tell him he isn't meeting your needs. Honesty is they key

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Originally Posted by shoona

i've been with my partner for 8 months and since that time i've been faking orgasm. It's been effecting me and my relationship as i believe that a healthy relationship needs a healthy sex life as well. I'm hesitating on how i should deliver the message to him, should i tell him that i'm not having orgasm from now on, would that make him think what has changed, or maybe i should confess to him that i never really had one since we started being intimate.

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That was your first mistake... starting to fake it. You second mistake was continuing to fake it.


See what sort of hole you dug yourself into?