OK, A few months ago some of usemight remember me here talking about this certain girl... well things hit rock bottem with us she turned cold hearted on me for no strange reason and no given reason she would never tell me why she split up with me or anything. Well just 2 weeks ago we where all at a party my friends 18th... and just so happened she was there with a few friends including her best friend. Well one of her friends I didn't know who she was but being drunk as usuall we started getting in about each other kissing and so on then once I found out it was her friend I dropped it and stayed away meanwhile her best friend was speaking to me and hanging around me... meanwhile getting more drunk then wham me and her best pal is kissing each other now :eek: :eek: and this was the one thing we both promised each other we won't do I'm not saying being drunk was an excuse but it played its part... anyway the next day I text and appoligised about it and we started talking... and now I've been over at her house speaking and she was telling me she was jealous and so on... so beofre I left we kissed and when I got home was textin her saying I should;t have done it she was like but it felt so right...


Now she is telling me she is signing up for the RAF to train for nursing and she will be leaving home but yet she is still getting close to me and I get the feeling she is leading me on for something that's not going to happen. Me being the idiot I am... can't resist as I'm in love with her!! I gave her everything I had and put all I had into our relationship... now what do I do...

1, Is she bluffing about the RAF to see how I feel towards her
2, Is she messing me around
3, Does she not want me going with anyone else even though she dumped me
4, Am I being stupid seeing her and meeting up
5, What do I do some one please help me explain to me...

Yours
Flexel

Go for it you say you love her then I'm sure she loves you .

OK, but she always mentions the sudden friendship between us.. but we kiss nearly every time we see each other and have a laugh... but its like she has some she is holding of till and I am in no doubt its to do with the RAF Nursing Training... but should I just back off or just enjoy it while it last's. I knoow I will be extremely sad to see her go if she gets on the course which I'm in no doubt she will..

I have a different opinion. She told you she is leaving to the RAF, she kissed you and said it felt good, and she told you she got jealous when you kissed her friend.
Well, it seems to me like she couldn't believe you kissed her friend because she doesn't want you to get over her even though she is over you. She is afraid she'll leave town and you will be totally and completely over her and then she'll be all alone without a boyfriend and you'll be happily dating. She is trying to keep you hooked on her so that whenever she needs to be with someone she'll find you there. It seems to me like she already knows how attached you are to her and she isn't that much attached to you. From the way you were writing it seemed like you already feel like she is playing you. I think the best thing to do is to not get attached to a person who gets close to you then all out of a sudden decides to break up with you for no reason. In anyway, even if she really likes you, you're the one who's going to get hurt because she's leaving and going to meet new people and you'll be home thinking about her all the time.
This is what I think, but I'm sure you know her much more than I do, if there are any more details you can give me, please do.
Hope I helped,
Sincerely,
Silent Breeze

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Originally Posted by Flexel

1, Is she bluffing about the RAF to see how i feel towards her
2, Is she messing me around
3, Does she not want me going with anyone else even tho she dumped me
4, Am i being stupid seeing her and meeting up

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Yes. She sounds like a manipulative deceptive girl, who wants to control you and hold your heart while she does whatever she wants. Don't play into this.