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  • Oct 12, 2005, 03:36 PM
    Pale White Skin
    Child Pornography
    In a paragraph or more, or less.. explain why you think it's wrong for children to view online pornography. I'd like to hear what some of you think about this issue. Thanks :)
  • Oct 13, 2005, 08:44 AM
    RickJ
    1. Viewing porn is like kissing. It's hard to stop and it's hard to resist going further. By going further, I mean going from viewing nudity to viewing the sex act itself to viewing sodomy to viewing bestiality, etc.

    2. Viewing porn also desensitizes kids from growing in maturity to appreciate the true value and goodness of sex.
  • Oct 13, 2005, 02:54 PM
    Pale White Skin
    I do agree that it's addicting. It's also become more open now considering it was an underground problem for a long time.
  • Oct 13, 2005, 03:14 PM
    Chery
    I think the first place a child should learn about sex and/or porn is at home with the parents so that when they have questions they get the proper answers and guidance that they should have. I would watch a movie with my child and we would talk about the subject afterwards, but porn - no- I think it's more suited to adults if they really need it.
  • Oct 13, 2005, 03:49 PM
    Pale White Skin
    I definitely agree with Chery! The parents should introduce their children.. but not with porn. With educational movies that the teachers view in the classrooms.
  • Oct 13, 2005, 04:08 PM
    RickJ
    Ditto, ditto, ditto.

    In my home we (my wife and I) only allow internet access by our kids (6 of 'em) to sites we approve.

    Further, we strongly filter all other activity (especially the popular AIM) with software (SpectorPro).

    On top of that, conversation and explanation of what we want them to know about sex (physically, spiritually and emotionally) helps, too, to to convince us that at least they have the foundation we want them to have when they're exposed when out of our sight.

    I hope and believe that most adults, even those who view pornography, would agree that their teen (especially pre-18) and younger children should not be doing so themselves.

    ... not unlike other things that require maturity beforehand, like drinking, smoking, driving, etc. huh?
  • Oct 14, 2005, 01:18 AM
    Pale White Skin
    That's great what you're doing Rick! Children of today need protection from all the different kinds of websites on the internet. Even pop-ups can shock the kids and they'll wonder what it is. Anything can happen and grown men or women who have suffered with this when they were younger can damage them for life. Nightmares can occur even after the years have passed and it's likely to happen because you can't just forget about the past when it was filled with so much abuse. No human can! I think it's great that you're protecting your kids and that's what every parent should do! :)
  • Oct 14, 2005, 02:01 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Pale White Skin
    That's great what you're doing Rick! Children of today need protection from all the different kinds of websites on the internet. Even pop-ups can shock the kids and they'll wonder what it is. Anything can happen and grown men or women who have suffered with this when they were younger can damage them for life. Nightmares can occur even after the years have passed and it's likely to happen because you can't just forget about the past when it was filled with so much abuse. No human can! I think it's great that you're protecting your kids and that's what every parent should do! :)

    I agree. An how true it is about memory and dreams. I was 4 at the time, and still have nightmares about the incidents. Even though I had therapy and am pretty well 'healed' and am not a man-hater, so it does stick with kids no matter how long.
  • Oct 14, 2005, 02:19 AM
    Pale White Skin
    I can understand how difficult it would be to think about the memories and how it haunts you till this very day. I'm sorry to hear about that Chery. But that's great that you're doing well, eh?
  • Oct 14, 2005, 02:31 AM
    Chery
    Life has to go on somehow. I concentrate on turning my energy to do good, that helps me too.
  • Oct 14, 2005, 02:37 AM
    RickJ
    Thank you for the encouragement.

    A kid's mind is a sponge, isn't it?: We must be very careful about what we allow to soak into it.
  • Oct 14, 2005, 03:05 AM
    Chery
    Yup, Yup, Yup. One of my favorites from a kids' movie with those little dinos, but it makes the point. I read somewhere a long while back, that most people that were abused as children make the best actors and comedians... food for thought?
  • Oct 14, 2005, 05:21 AM
    fredg
    Porn
    Hi,
    A couple of days ago, NBC had a report on it's national news TV show about children and porn.
    Although not conclusive in it's findings yet, research is showing, so far:
    1. Children who look and listen to porn are more likely, in later years, to have violent activities.
    2. When they eventually have sex, it will not be up to their expectations, do not enjoy it as it should be enjoyed.
    It is the responsibility of parents to monitor what their children do and watch on a computer; in whatever way they can find that is effective.
    Best wishes,
    fredg
  • Oct 14, 2005, 06:11 AM
    Chery
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by fredg
    Hi,
    A couple of days ago, NBC had a report on it's national news TV show about children and porn.
    Although not conclusive in it's findings yet, research is showing, so far:
    1. Children who look and listen to porn are more likely, in later years, to have violent activities.
    2. When they eventually have sex, it will not be up to their expectations, do not enjoy it as it should be enjoyed.
    It is the responsibility of parents to monitor what their children do and watch on a computer; in whatever way they can find that is effective.
    Best wishes,
    fredg

    I sure hope those parents who need to guide their children more carefully paid attention to the TV at that time instead of flipping to another channel. Some parents are just 'too busy' and expect the schools to take the responsibility, too bad, because those are the parents who visit their children in jails or cemeteries later on, and wonder "why did this have to happen to me"... still not getting it.
  • Dec 28, 2005, 04:28 PM
    orange
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by Him-
    Introducing a child's sexuality through teaching and gentle showing is the right way.

    Ugh, that's a pretty sick statement, coming from someone who admits to being a paedophile! You shouldn't be helping kids with their sexuality, or helping them at all for that matter!

    My pregnancy hormones are raging tonight... please, please get some help!
  • Dec 31, 2005, 06:07 AM
    manutd4eva
    Him- you should be allowed anywhere near kids or for that reason you shouldn't be allowed near anyone except for prison staff
  • Dec 31, 2005, 04:25 PM
    nwsflash
    Admins ** Sick Person Alert **
    Admins Can you please look into the things that "him" is saying on the forum. This is open web and there are a number of young children and teens that view these boards and I sure would not want any of my family or friends children getting im's or email from a very sick twisted person like him.
  • Dec 31, 2005, 04:37 PM
    manutd4eva
    True but what everyone has to realise is that this person is just twisted and if he contacted me or any other kids/teenagers hopefully they would ignore him
  • Dec 31, 2005, 04:47 PM
    nwsflash
    Sick And Twisted
    Quote:

    Originally Posted by manutd4eva
    true but what everyone has to realise is that this person is just twisted and if he contacted me or any other kids/teenagers hopefully they would ignore him

    True I just hope that if people do get any message's or anything off this guy they go straight into the rubbish icon... ((Erase))...
  • Dec 31, 2005, 04:51 PM
    manutd4eva
    Just a question why yesterday did I have 2 green rep things and now I only have one?

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