Originally Posted by buggage
there is still a missing piece of the puzzle. we now know about the financial issues(which makes sense. money is precious commodity to young families. especially when the person you loaned it to has seemingly no concern for returning it, or appreciation for even receiving it.) BUT, there is a more personal issue here. why would he think that you talking to your mom would make you leave him? what has happened in your history that would make him think that you would have reason to, and would leave him..........because you are talking to your mom? also please consider that with situations as they are, perhaps its best your son doesnt get to know your mom at the present time.when there is conflict, and a child is caught in the middle, if both sides aren't respectful of the other, then the child will suffer because of it. One side may be fine, but the other will (intentionally or not) talk badly about the other side..... even if they dont talk badly, children are good at sensing these things. You may end up with a child that doesn't respect you because of you(or mainly your husband from the sounds of it) because his grandma doesnt like him. or vice versa. Until you can all put things straight, and have a friendly, if not loving, relationship, perhaps its best not to go there yet. correct me if I am wrong, but from what I can tell he is only about a year old or younger. correct? at this point, it wont scar him if he doesnt get to know his gma right away. you can't ignore the situation between your husband and your mother, because of the "relationship" you want for your son and her.I think a lot of this is that you miss your relationship with your mom, and wanting a good relationship with your son and his gma is a good excuse to give your hubby so you can talk with her again yourself. i'm not saying this is a bad thing. you should want a good relationship with your mother, and for your son and his gma......however, you can not ignore your relationship with your husband in the matter. If you do, you very well may end up sacrificing your marriage. just take a step back and look at the situation. Its possible for everyone to work out the situation, and get things back on track. Does your mom not make enough money working at the hospital to make payments to your husband every month?but as I said, I think the financial issues aren't the only issues....... theres a lot of personal ones going on that we dont really know about. If you want a happy relationship between your son and your mom, then you need to get a happy relationship going on between you, your hubby and your mom. situations like this dont stay burried........... and the more you try, the bigger they get.