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  • Sep 30, 2007, 11:59 PM
    DomingoCL
    Ex won't give me space
    So my ex girlfriend and I have been broken up for about 3 months, although we never gave each other space. First I need to tell you we've known each other almost two years and were always flirting with each other, and then dated for about 4 months long distance. I'm 29 and she's 23, I went to college a bit late and graduated 2 years ago and she just graduated in December. I put in a lot of effort since I wasn't able to be there, flew to see her every month and flew her out to see me. Took her out a lot, etc, but she didn't reciprocate it.

    After we broke up she texted me and told me that I was the man she dreamed of marrying however that she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Two weeks later she tells me that she's made out with someone, but has no real interest in this person. Then a few weeks after that, she tells me she heart broken because he's dumped her, after lying to me about not being with this guy for about a month. So they get back together and she tells me she was never in love with me. So I recently blocked and broke off contact with her two weeks ago. She found out through a mutual friend that I had done this so I explained to her that I needed time to be better. She said she understood and wanted me to be better. Since then however she has gone on to other AIM names and IM's me when I'm away, called and texted messsaged me and even sent me a picture mail (nothing gaudy), and has asked our mutual friends how I'm doing, if I'm dating, if I'm OK, etc. I don't answer any of her texts or messages.

    I feel like she's trying to keep me close for something but I don't really even know if I want her in my life I feel she used me, lied to me, and is trying to keep me around so if she needs someone she thinks I'll be there. She thinks "we'll be great friends" but it's just very odd. First, what's her intentions? Secondly did she use me? Third, should I salvage the "friendship"?
  • Oct 1, 2007, 08:37 PM
    talaniman
    From what you have written, you did well to move on, and cut contact with her. Keep it that way, and don't be drawn into her confusion and drama. Whatever her agenda or motives stay as far away from her as you can. Be very busy and unavailable. Good Luck, as she sounds like a confused nut.

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