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  • Sep 30, 2007, 08:51 AM
    charmingprince
    First crush after breakup
    Recently I saw a girl in my college.she is new admission in my class.I m observing her from the first day of her college.I really like her.I have crush on her .whenver I'm alone her face appears in front of me.she is in my class.I have observed that she looks at me every time.when I look at her she just turns her face.I don't know whether she likes me or no.I really like her.plzzz help me. Sometimes I feel like crying bcoz 4 months before I had a break up with my ex-gf & after that she is my first crush I don't want to loose her.I m afraid to talk to talk to her directly bcoz she don't talk to boys much.she has a reserved type of nature. Help me.its not lust I really like her & I'm very positive about her.
  • Sep 30, 2007, 09:06 AM
    crushedovernover
    Dude how do you love some one that you don't even no. You arefeeling lust not love. Love is built over time going threw hardships and coming out on top. Im sure you like her. Don't be afraid be confident and just go up to her and say. Hey wed lets go have lunch.. Don't say do you want to because that gives her a chance to say no, Say lets go have lunch..
  • Sep 30, 2007, 09:39 AM
    stonewilder
    I think more appropriate wording would be you're in lust with her since you don't even know her well enough to know who she is yet. Even if you believe in love at first site you said you are "in love again". How many times can a person fall in love just by looking at someone? Well, OK whatever. The first thing you need to do is calm down! She is just a person, not a love goddess. Control your hormones man! Now stop thinking with your heart for a few minuets and think with that brain God gave you. What is the logical thing to do when you want to meet someone? You talk to them of course. Now you want to know how and what to say? Conversations always starts with small talk. You say hello when she looks at you. You asked her if she likes the class and why she picked this class. As the small talk turns to real conversations ( a day, a week ,a month how ever long it takes to get past the small talk) then ask her about studying together at Starbucks, the library, in the park or where ever. No reason to be nervous it's not a date you're just studying together. By this time you will have gotten to know her a little better and you will know by instincts if she likes you. You can then asked her to go to a movie one night with you. You've done all this with your ex g/f before, you know how to do it already. We woman are all pretty much the same. What works for one is probably going to work for the rest of us. Just be yourself and don't put her on a pedestal where she will be sure to fall and you will only find disappointment in her. Just talk to her! It's not likely that you will pee your pants just saying hello to her.

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