Ask Me Help Desk - Teen Dating

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My sister set this up for me she said it has helped her a lot. I am in high school, my age is irrelevant (I am not a freshman) any way I am in love. I have loved the guy for a year now and we have a lot in common but I think he has a problem. He seems to be addicted to sex. He wants to do it with me and I want to but at the same time I am scared to. I want the first time to be special and meaningful and I don't feel like I am getting that with him right now, all that we do is mess around... well we did once. It doesn't feel wrong or anything it just doesn't feel like its as right as it should be. I want to do it with him, he isn't pressuring me. It just seems like the importance is being taken from it because of how much he talks about it. What should I do?:confused:

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Originally Posted by texasangel1991

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My sister set this up for me she said it has helped her alot. I am in highschool, my age is irrelevant (i am not a freshman) any way I am in love. I have loved the guy for a year now and we have alot in common but i think he has a problem. He seems to be addicted to sex. he wants to do it with me and i want to but at the same time i am scared to. I want the first time to be special and meaningful and i dont feel like i am getting that with him right now, all that we do is mess around...well we did once. It doesn't feel wrong or anything it just doesn't feel like its as right as it should be. I want to do it with him, he isn't pressuring me. It just seems like the importance is being taken from it because of how much he talks about it. What should I do?:confused:

If you are not ready for sex, then do NOT do it. It should be special. Save it for someone who truly cares deeply about you and isn't looking for an easy way to lose their virginity or add to the sexual score card. Your body, your decision. Also trust your gut instinct. If it is telling you "no" then follow it.

PS: All teenage guys are obsessed with sex. All guys talk about sex. This is normal. Teenage guys are horny virtually all the time. Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do. If he keeps bringing it up it is probably because you are very
Desirable to him.

Lastly, if and when you do have sex with someone, make sure you have reliable birth control to prevent pregnancy and STDs, such as a condom and spermicide.

Oh, and by the way. Yes age is revelant. How can it not be. Especially with this type of topic.

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Originally Posted by texasangel1991

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My sister set this up for me she said it has helped her alot. I am in highschool, my age is irrelevant (i am not a freshman) any way I am in love. I have loved the guy for a year now and we have alot in common but i think he has a problem. He seems to be addicted to sex. he wants to do it with me and i want to but at the same time i am scared to. I want the first time to be special and meaningful and i dont feel like i am getting that with him right now, all that we do is mess around...well we did once. It doesn't feel wrong or anything it just doesn't feel like its as right as it should be. I want to do it with him, he isn't pressuring me. It just seems like the importance is being taken from it because of how much he talks about it. What should I do?:confused:

You stated "he seems to be addicted to sex. he wants to do it with me ....." sounds like he is pressuring you to me.

DOn't be pressured into doing something that you aren't comfortable with. I am saving myself for someone truly specail. Everyone has temptations, but it takes true character and strength to turn down temptation. Sex is very intimate, and to get the full affect is when two people do it to show each other there love for one another. Love not "lust". Give it time, and if he is not taking no for an answer tell him that he makes you feel scared and pressured into doing something you don't want to do. If he still doesn't take that into consideration, forget him, boys are just a bunch of hormones looking for girls to give them stuff. Your better than that and you deserve a guy just as great as you! Good Luck!