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My 3 year old son will not listen to me!

Hello,
I have a 3 year old boy that will turn 4 in December, and he acts like he knows it all!:o
He is starting to act very rude towards me and his father.
He will not listen to a word we say to him.
He will do things on spite,like when we tell him not to throw his toy's or not to hit his friends, he will look at us and do it anyway.
We have tried to love him and correct him the best we know how to,but it seems like we are not doing enough or we are not doing the right thing.
Please tell me what I can do to turn my little demon back into the little angel he use to be!
Thanks,
shannon79.:)

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Originally Posted by shannon79

Hello,
I have a 3 year old boy that will turn 4 in december, and he acts like he knows it all!:o
He is starting to act very rude towards me and his father.
He will not listen to a word we say to him.
he will do things on spite,like when we tell him not to throw his toy's or not to hit his friends, he will look at us and do it anyway.
We have tried to love him and correct him the best we know how to,but it seems like we are not doing enough or we are not doing the right thing.
please tell me what i can do to turn my little demon back into the little angel he use to be!
thanks,
shannon79.:)

It appears that he is a typical little boy. However you need to maybe take his toys away or just take total control. Have a time out!

1) Choose a method of discipline.
2) Be consistent with it.
3) Never give meaningless threats -
Meaning... never say you're going to punish and then not carry out the punishment.

Your son will not test you as often or act out as much if he knows his boundaries and the consequences that follow if the boundaries are crossed.

Good Luck.

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Originally Posted by vjenkins07

It appears that he is a typical little boy. However you need to maybe take his toys away or just take total control. Have a time out!

Thank you so much, I will try my best!! :eek: ;)
shannon79

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Originally Posted by AKaeTrue

1) Choose a method of discipline.
2) Be consistent with it.
3) Never give meaningless threats -
meaning... never say you're going to punish and then not carry out the punishment.

Your son will not test you as often or act out as much if he knows his boundaries and the consequences that follow if the boundaries are crossed.

Good Luck.

Yes I do believe I have been doing that!
I'm guilty of not standing up to my word.
Thank you very much!
shannon79.;)

In think my son was one of the first in a long line of kids that act this way. Back then they said it was bad parenting or being a single mom. But I swore it was something in the air or something. I tried every parenting technique and nothing worked. After awhile Oprah and other shows started having stories on out of control kids even from good two parent families. The one girls parents said they were scared to death to go to sleep at night because the two year old daughter would get kitchen knives and stab teddy bears.
One thing I had to do was avoid watching the 'parenting experts' on the Today show because they always had pat answers on how to manage kids like there was one formula that worked for all kids and I knew better. I doubt they actually ever raised any themselves!
I have since learned that often a lack of certain vitamins and nutrition that can trigger this.
Some believe Omega 3 is essential for kids that act up. Also you could try passionflower or chamomile at bedtime. Also maybe try this vitamin it is suppose to be especially for kids that aren't so passive
Swanson Health Products - Little Angels

Also if you plan on having more kids take the omega 3 and maternity vitamins I think that is part of the problem as well as my ex husband was a drug addict and I think that has a lot to do with it too.

Hi,
Thank you so much for taking the time to try and help... I just now ordered the vitamin!
Hope it works!
Godbless you.
shannon79.

Use your creativity to come up with different ways to scold and to state rules and directions. Sing them or whisper them or do storytelling with him - he is the hero of the story. Kids that age are very inventive and clever, like to pretend, etc. so use that to your advantage.

Your public library has terrific parenting books to say more about this or give other ideas for this age group. Ask a librarian for help. He/she knows all the nooks and crannies.

Thank you very much... I will keep you all posted on how I do with him.
So far I have been putting him in time out and taking away a toy when he acts really bad,
And I can see a small difference already.
Now its time to get on his level.. thanks wondergirl!
shannon79

Rather than be punitive, be clever. He's getting to a fun age. I love 4 y/os - taught them for three years in preschool - best 3 years of my life with lots of hugs!

Sounds like a 3 or 4 year old boy to me. By age 7 or 8 he'll be on his way to more meaningful discoveries and by the time he's an adult he will be able to remember every detail of his childhood except for one thing, age 3 and 4.

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Originally Posted by shannon79

Hello,
I have a 3 year old boy that will turn 4 in december, and he acts like he knows it all!:o
He is starting to act very rude towards me and his father.
He will not listen to a word we say to him.
he will do things on spite,like when we tell him not to throw his toy's or not to hit his friends, he will look at us and do it anyway.
We have tried to love him and correct him the best we know how to,but it seems like we are not doing enough or we are not doing the right thing.
please tell me what i can do to turn my little demon back into the little angel he use to be!
thanks,
shannon79.:)

I've raised three boys. All kids (especially in today's world) are growing up fast INDEPENDENCE is starting early on in TODDLERS so the best soultion
1. sit him down when he shows an action you disagree with
2. take some time to always explain to him why he is in trouble and what he needs to do so that he won't have to go to time out. A minute per age, some people think 30 minutes in corner its best to remember to a small child a min. seems forever.
3. always end with I love you and smmile and a great big love.
Remember get control now or forever be confusion.
Yes, I did learn the hard way with some of my decisions early on ! I hope this will help
Small people are unique, I have a nephew that's almost three and he basically can caring on a conversation already, he's my little red headed temper, and he keeps me laughing, we let him express but we also depress when necessary.