I have a big crush on my dentist. I called with an emergency, and he was flirting with me like crazy (this was 1 year ago July). He flirted with me big time, to the point where the assistant pulled him away from me, but he still would not leave. I found out he was separated for almost one year and divorced for almost another year.
I thought he wanted me to ask him out, (I was thinking he could not ask me, since he is my dentist and doesn’t have his own practice). S o I did on the phone, but he seemed reluctant, but agreed. He asked me to confirm the date and I did, but he didn’t return the call or show up to the date. Until the next evening, he called, and said he was just calling to apology, saying that he just got the call and several others a day late. He said, he thought I just didn’t call. I said OK and got off the phone quickly.
We were talking on the phone a lot to advertize together. He got approval, or so I thought, from his boss. The newspaper called to get the confirmation from his boss, and when I called to see how it went, the receptionist said they were sorry, but not at this time. I was mad, since it was 40 minutes to print and they pulled the ad. Now I didn’t get into the newspapers and 2 magazines and my grand opening was soon. This hurt my new company I was opening. I blew a fuse and said to her that I couldn’t believe how unprofessional he was, and that he hid behind a woman to tell me. I also said he was wishy-washy and a coward. I found out later that he had nothing to do with it, but only his boss did. I guess she told him what I said.
I had a few more appointments with him, and he said on the next appointment, that he thought I wanted to hurt him. (His neck was stiff and I showed him how to crack it, I thought it was strange that he thought this). He continued to flirt with me, big time. So I called again (now it was 9 months since our last scheduled date). This time he said he wanted to keep it professional. Choice words... I was light hearted about it and he was very nice about it. He said he couldn’t because I was a client. He said he had never gone out with a client before, and I said I would get a new dentist, he said, he just could not do it, but thanked me profusely and said how nice I was, and I hurried up and got off the phone with him. =0(
I have found myself stalking him. (Maybe I am losing it.) I found out tons of info about him all free on the internet. (I was hoping I would find out info so I wouldn’t like him anymore, but he is such a great person, I find myself liking him more and more. I have tried to move on, but everyone I have dated just makes him look better.) I have run into him by accident at a large dance hall. He was watching the go-go dancers up high and would not give me eye contact. It seems he likes everyone to come to him. But he cracked a smile. I was standing there alone for less than a minute and a guy asked me to dance, so I did. I was wondering if he was going to approach me. But, he left after I went on to the dance floor and he had just arrived at the bar too. I think I am stalking him to find reasons not to like him, but he really is a great guy. Everything I find out about him makes me like him more. I am 10 years older than him and am 30 lbs. over weight. His ex-wife was 6 years older than him... I really want this guy and don’t want to give up. I think he likes me, but was angry from the names I called him behind his back. I also think he had a very difficult marriage and he got raked over the coals (She is very pretty (and thin) and acts like Judge Judy. I am pretty sure she is remarried.) I too have a very strong personality, but I am fun with a great sense of humor. I saw him on a date with a girl, but I didn’t get a good look at her, I could only see blonde hair. He brought her home at 11:30 PM Friday night and went home alone. Maybe if I lost weight it would make me harder to resist. Helpppp!! How do I get this guy to ask me out?
Please advise
