Do you think it would be cheating if I talked on the phone with another man? I have been married for 18 years but it has been very rocky. He has cheated on me a couple times and Ilied to him about being a month behind on some bills once, but latly he is getting a bit mental and physical at times (only pushing) abusive. I am sure we are getting divorced but not as of yet. Would it be wrong for me to talk on the phone with this other man? Thanks , confussed

Also, I was reading in here yesterday and for the I'm dating a bipolar guy and the discription sounded like it was my husband.

I think that you should not make the situation worse or give him any ammunition by talking to this man and starting an emotional affair.

Go through with your divorce - this guy sounds like a jerk - then pursue a relationship with this other man.

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Originally Posted by cljconfussed

do you think it would be cheating if I talked on the phone with another man? I have been married for 18 years but it has been very rocky. He has cheated on me a couple times and Ilied to him about being a month behind on some bills once, but latly he is getting a bit mental and physical at times (only pushing) abusive. I am sure we are getting divorced but not as of yet. Would it be wrong for me to talk on the phone with this other man? Thanks , confussed

Also, I was reading in here yesterday and for the i'm dating a bipolar guy and the discription sounded like it was my husband.

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Wow, be careful please! I don't think it is wrong to talk to another man as long as it "does not cross the line". Keep it friendship, nothing sexual and you should not feel quilty. As long as it is just for friendship. You may be feeling lonely at this time because of your situation with your husband and try to replace that loneliness with another man, don't do it, it is not worth it. But as long as it is purely friendship why not.

Thanks guys, This other man is someone from work who offered time to listen. We are not looking to take it anywhere. I won't even call him because I don't want to make a mistake.(even if it is only on a phone) thanks again

Sounds like a good idea. It sounds like you are at risk of being in an emotional affair (even if its just talking, its cheating) and it will only make things worse. Don't wait for him to divorce you, because it also sounds like that's what you are planning. If he is pushing you, what's next? I'm sure your friend means well, but save his support for after/and if you get a divorce

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Originally Posted by cljconfussed

do you think it would be cheating if I talked on the phone with another man? I have been married for 18 years but it has been very rocky. He has cheated on me a couple times and Ilied to him about being a month behind on some bills once, but latly he is getting a bit mental and physical at times (only pushing) abusive. I am sure we are getting divorced but not as of yet. Would it be wrong for me to talk on the phone with this other man? Thanks , confussed

Also, I was reading in here yesterday and for the i'm dating a bipolar guy and the discription sounded like it was my husband.

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Simple answer... yes. If it is something you wouldn't do in his presence, then you shouldn't do it at all! As far as the physical... I suggest you get out while you can. It only turns worse from here. "It is safer to be alone than in bad company."