Ask Me Help Desk - Losing a love one

I lost my mom July 9th of 06. I really really miss her and there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of her and cry. I am obsessed with her pictures and things that was hers. I'm not sure if this is healthy or not. My sisters think I'm crazy and should put the past in the past and go on with my life, I say it is still fresh and it will take a while before I'm ready to let this go. And I'm nowhere near ready. I don't know what I should do when it comes to my mom. I love her so much and really don't want to let go.

We all deal with death in different ways. You just deal with it in a different way than your sisters. That doesn't make you crazy. Just remember all the good times you shared with her. It's OK to keep pictures of her around if that helps. Everyday it will get a little easier to live with. Hang in there.

Are you religious at all? Do you believe in an afterlife?

:) no I do not think its unhealthy to remember someone as special as a mom, it's a natural
Emotion,firstly we are the attachments for our parents from birth till we are 18 years old,
So spending that amount of time with our moms really takes a toll when she's not around,I think the best bet is to find closure in the sense that she is not caught up in this material world but she is in heaven a better place . Time do not heal all wounds cherish beautiful memories of your mum and no that she is your guardian angel .

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Originally Posted by Sandie718

I lost my mom July 9th of 06. I really really miss her and there is not a day that goes by that I dont think of her and cry. I am obsessed with her pictures and things that was hers. I'm not sure if this is healthy or not. My sisters think i'm crazy and should put the past in the past and go on with my life, I say it is still fresh and it will take a while before im ready to let this go. And i'm nowhere near ready. I dont know what I should do when it comes to my mom. I love her so much and really don't want to let go.

My brother was murdered last year.I can really understand why you find it hard to let her go.I'm sure you loved her very much.I don't want to let my brother go either,I don't think he wants me to yet. I feel like he's trying to communicate somehow. I do wish you good luck.

We don't have to let them go when they pass. I lost my Aunt ( which was like a mother to me ) almost 3 years ago to cancer and I took care of her until her last breath. I talk to her everyday. I feel when someone passes on we don't have to let go of them, yes we have to let go of the physical part of them, but that isn't what makes a person who they are. It is their spirit. That we can hold onto forever. As you was told before we all deal with death in our own way. But remember. The part that made that person who they were will stays with you forever. What made them who they were will never die. When you look at is that way. You get to keep what was so special to you about that person. And having her picture just reminds you of what the body looked like that she used while being here on earth. There isn't anything wrong with that. I have pictures of my Aunt in just about every room. When I walk by I will always say something to her. I truly believe she can hear me.
So sweety you don't have to let your Mom go or anyone else you lose in death. Just look at it in a different way and no one can tell you how to deal with this. Cry when you need to cry. Hold onto her picture. DO what ever you need to do. Talk to her and if you listen you will hear her. Not from your ears but from your heart and mind. I hope I have helped you in some small way. I will pray for you