Do you think that you can love someone again after you've already gotten over them?

I don't see why not. If things have changed and problems have been ironed out for the better I don't see the harm in trying things again.

If there was a spark in the first place, it's not impossible to happen again. Rare, but I think if the circumstances are right, it could happen again.

Yeh things can change. The world is all change! With ex's I imagine the cases are rare but I know two immediate family members who got back with their ex's in both cases after many years.

I guess the key is to NC!

Nc is the key.. Time and space. If your ex realises what they have they may wish to try again.

I have had 2 exs. The latest one I would definitely try again. We had a great relationship. But the first one, there is no chance I could love her again. Its funny how I just know and feel I never want her again... I speak to her now and we can be friends but never will I want to try again too much trouble and I know that now.

You never know what life brings, but you being healthy and happy without them is the key.

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Originally Posted by rockerchick_682

Do you think that you can love someone again after you've already gotten over them?

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I think you should ask yourself why you want to go back there. Why did you break up to begin with.
But if you are healed from the hurt and there is a good reason for you to go backwards, relationships can be rekindled.

It's just so hard to find someone else, that I was falling back on my ex, I don't want to be with him but I want someone that I can be close to again.

Well then that's not a very good reason to go back to him. Its better to be alone then to be with someone just to have someone in your life. That's not fair to the other person that's using them for your own gain.

Well I am in the "space" and time portion of this journey called love. It has been 2 weeks and I am still not in a good place personally. I just want to go out there and do something for her to make everything better. I realize though that this may hurt my chances instead of helping them. I hope to give her space and eventually be able to re-ignite our relationship, a better one of course. I do have hope that we can re-spark what we had. I hven't lost hope, so I don't think anyone should. Hope keeps dreams alive.

It came out wrong, I don't want to be with him because we have opposite goals in life. If he would get his life back together, I would want to be with him, but I doubt that's ever going to happen. So I'm stuck, I feel like I'm being torn both ways

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Originally Posted by rockerchick_682

It's just so hard to find someone else, that I was falling back on my ex, I don't want to be with him but I want someone that I can be close to again.

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Well as my grand mother used to say "don't swap the devil for the witch" Do swap one bad situation with another. Learn to be by yourself for a while. You will have a relationship again, but don't want one so bad that you settle for one you don't really want.