I duno what to do me and my boyfriend had been going out for almost 5 month but then a week before we started back school he dumped me and said he wanted to be single I asked why he wanted to be and he just said cause he liked it.The only problem is sometimes he's flirting with me and people say he still likes me but is afraid to show that he still loves me or feels awkward that he's made a mistake or a idiot out of himself I don't know whether this is true because one of my friends asked him if he still likes me but he said he doesn't but he keeps on flirting with me I'm scared to tell him how I feel but I think he still knows I like him but I don't just like him I love him he made me feel sooo special and happy and he even said himself that we were good and happy together :confused: :confused: :confused: so I duno what to do :confused: also I herd off my ex that the other day 1 of my best friends have supposed 2 of been flirting with him":confused: PLEASE HELP ME !

He sounds as if he is just a flirt.

Big lesson to learn a guy is never "afraid to admit how he feels" or "Scared of his feelings". Especially not as teenagers. Take what he is saying at face value and move on. If he flirts with you don't flirt back. He clearly just enjoys the game of keeping you engaged.

As for what he said in your relationship - he meant what he said at the time but no longer feels those things. Peoples feelings can change. There is nothing you did or can do to get them to feel those things again or to change those feelings.

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He sounds as if he is just a flirt.

Big lesson to learn a guy is never "afraid to admit how he feels" or "Scared of his feelings". Especially not as teenagers. Take what he is saying at face value and move on. If he flirts with you don't flirt back. He clearly just enjoys the game of keeping you engaged.

As for what he said in your relationship - he meant what he said at the time but no longer feels those things. Peoples feelings can change. There is nothing you did or can do to get them to feel those things again or to change those feelings.

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Yeah good point but he's 2 years younger than me I'm 15 he's 13 am cummin up 16 he's cummin up 14.someone said maybe he's not ready for a full on relationship yet.Also some lads are afraid to let there feelins out

Oh okay... that makes more sense.

You are probably more mature then he is therefore you are more interested in having a boyfriend and having a real relationship. Since he is 13 he is not thinking along those same lines.

I'd chalk it up to him being inexperienced in the ways of women. I'd just move on and find a nice boy who is your same age.

But he's the one for me I can't get voer him

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but he's the one for me i can't get voer him

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But honey, he doesn't want to be in a relationship. There is no point to fixate on someone. I suspect that the majority of the reason why you want him so badly is because 1)you are fixating upon him 2) you cannot have him.

The best way to get over him is to accept that the relationship has ended. Its okay to be sad and feel hurt. That's very natural. Spend more time with your friends and put a ban on speaking about this boy in place. If you start talking about him tell your friends to tell you to shut up (:) ) and tell them they are not allowed to talk about him. That will help you stop fixating.

Also you are still very young. Believe it or not there will be lots of boys who will come in and out of your life. You will have your heart broken plenty of times as well as you will probably break quite a few hearts yourself. It aches now because it has just ended. I know how hard it can be to lose someone you really care about. But fixating upon him and telling yourself "he is the one for you" etc is not helpful for you in healing and moving on. I know you don't want to but its cruel to yourself not to.

Ano I've got to but I cant

Stop saying you can't. You can you just don't want to be over him. There is quite a difference. You need to change the way you are thinking.

Here is a little exercise:

Everyday say to yourself "I am over (insert his name). I'm moving on from him. I no longer have feelings for (insert his name)". Say it every time you find yourself feeling that you will not move on.

That won't work I see him all da tym lol and speak to him all da tym lol

So then stop speaking to him!

Do you like how it feels to feel like this? Does it make you feel good to feel this way? On some level this has to be making you feel good or else you would stop.

Wow your almost 16 and he's almost 14 well there's a huge maturity level difference there. Your almost close to being a women and he's just going to be a freshman it sounds. And freshman are annoying an immature for that year because it's a year to be social and stuff. I'm 16 almost 17 and I had an older girl friend always when I was younger because I just showed more maturity in some ways. Yes he made you feel special that's always the best feeling, but if he flirts around its not right. I've done it myself while going out with a girl that I love and its not the right thing to do. He's got to choose his mind. ~ I LOVE LAURYN SPITTLE~

BTW there's tons of guys out there and it is hard to move on if u love someone, 3 months yesterday since I've been broken up with my Ex I STILL LOVE HER TO DEATH. ~I LOVE LAURYN SPITTLE~

Yeah I know I do feel good when he's flirten wiv me, ano there's a age gap but I don't care he was lyk a big part of my life and still in my heart and I can't get over him and I don't want to I wish I could turn bak time and maybe make the relationship of lasted :(