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  • Sep 23, 2007, 06:07 PM
    coxpiratepride55
    My girlfriend of two years broke up with me. How do I get her attracted to me again?
    Ok, my ex girlfriend of two years broke up with me after getting moved into college dorms. She isn't on the lookout for any guys and said she needed time to :figure things out". It has been almost a month since the breakup and we were talking on the phone almost every night and would see each other occasionally at school. I have been hurting so bad and I told her that I just wanted to spend a little time with her. I met up with her at a neutral zone (her parents house) to where we could just hang out and get a feel for each other again. We had a bunch of laughs and ended the evening with a simple hug. I sent her a text message asking if she had found out her true feelings about me and if she has an idea of what our future should hold. She called me today and said she LOVES hanging out with me but before I was about to be over to her house she didn't get the butterflies and excitement that she used to. She said once I got over there it was like her brother came in and she was excited to see him but doesn't have any physical attraction anymore. I'm 21, she's 18, and I just don't know what I can do to get her physically attracted to me again. I consider myself to be attractive and don't see a reason why she wouldn't be attracted to me considering she loved me for 2 years. The sex was always good between us and the only thing I really need right now is just to get her to see me as a boyfriend instead of a friend. She enjoys my company, loves to talk on the phone with me, and we have the same interests. Whenever she gave me the news today of how she truly felt, she said she still wants to talk to me on the phone and everything because she likes to be with me. I told her that I would rather her not call anymore because I need to get over her and she asked me to call her once I felt comfortable with talking with her. Any ideas?! Please help!!
  • Sep 23, 2007, 06:10 PM
    GlindaofOz
    There is nothing you can do to "make" her attracted to you again. Sometimes peoples feelings just change and there is not much that can be done about it.

    However based on what you have said you are spending WAY too much time with her on the phone, etc. You need to stop all the non-stop contact and go no contact in order for you to heal and move forward.
  • Sep 23, 2007, 06:14 PM
    talaniman
    That romance is over and she has changed. Accept this and move on, let go. Your are friends and she would love that but leave her alone until you can get over her. Your in love, she isn't.
  • Sep 23, 2007, 06:33 PM
    Homegirl 50
    Her feelings for you have changed and you can't make somebody love you again. I'd say accept it and move on. Stop talking with her on the phone too.

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