It all started when I got with this boy from school it took us 8 months to get together and then we started to fall in love he was the first person I had made love to I felt so comftable with him we always had our ups and downs like normal relationships. Then one day I went to my auntys and she told me my uncle had saw him with his friends and his friends girlfriend and another girl had her arm around him so I went mad about it I mean what was I meant to think? So I finished with him and he asked for me back but I just didn't want to talk that night so I went home and slept on it and then I realised I had made a mistake a day later and when I asked for him back he told me no so I was begging for him to take me back and he did an then he said he will come and see me soon so I asked him one day can you come and see me and he said no and I asked if he made the decision whether to get back with me was for me or him he said he didn't no he won't seem to give me any answers. Then I went to meet him and he was telling me I made him smile and stuff but he wouldn't get back with me. So I now I feel like I don't want to be hear because I'm just so hurt about evrything and he won't answer my calls and told me if we do end up trying again it won't be for a good while but I scared he will find someone else by then and tell me no after I've waited for him people are telling me to leave him but I can't it seems like the end of the world to me I can't live without him I no it sounds silly! And I'm only 16 but I didn't know 1 silly mistake would end up like this! Please help me! :( :confused:

I don't think you made a mistake. Maybee their were signs you didn't want to see. Had he changed w u in any way? I know him being your 1st was special. But sex won't hold anyone. And if you keep chasing he's going to keep running. Play hard to get. Men love the chase. Remember in a relationship one person has the control. And you gave it all to him when you begged. Have you tried making him jelouse. Don't make it obvious. Just date other guys. Let him see othe guys think your hot. If he doesn't come around. Then your better off. You don't want a guy cheating. You'll never be happy w that insecurity. You'll get over him. Trust me. It just takes some time. But the next guy its always better than the last. Use your new expirience when choosinig mr right. Latter on guys get ugly. Fat. Bald, hairy in all the wrong places... yuck. So have fun. Dating is not just about getting to know guys but yourself also. Your 1st will allways be your 1st. @ least it was special. But the next time might just be mind blowing awsome.

I have kind of got over him now it had being a long time I don't reali fink about him but I keep having dreams :S I had 1 which we got on reali well in and then I had 1 where we were getting on reali well and he had a new girlfriend an she was in a bad way so I went 2 see her with him but my dream cut off before I saw her its reali confusin me its being a long time now but I still get these dreams and can't understand y!

How is the recovery process going for you?

Never go back on a relationship that has not trust in it. Just keep going forward, you're only 16, you have so much more ahead of you to dream and achieve.

I'm sure being your first love, it is hard; but life is just beginning for you. Strive for better !