My daughter has no respect for me (and has said so). Her boyfriend cussed me out and I told him to leave my home (after he hit her). She yelled at me because I told him to leave and I told her to go with him. The problem is I have a 3 year old granddaughter in the middle of this. I did not want to engage in an argument with her father in front of her but rather walked away. I told my daughter under any circumstances is he allowed here, she said he is. She thinks she rules all and everything. She pays $200 a month for rent. I pay everything else. She thinks we are here to get walked on and be her live in babysitter. She left with him and left her daughter overnight without asking us. But, because I didn't hear her phone call and wasn't able to answer her 1 call she said she tried to call me. I told her to leave the house. But, now she thinks it's a joke, said she's not leaving until November 1st. And, she didn't tell me she told my sons girlfriend. I told her she needed to leave go live with her boyfriend she has taken advantage way to long. Please give me any recommendations that you may have.

Thank you,
Frustrated mom and grandma:mad:

You can give her 30 days notice, preferably in writing and keep a copy. You can also give her 72 hours notice, since she is apparently not complying with the house rules. Call your local sheriff and ask there. If you want her evicted, they can present the notice to her. On the day she is to be gone, please, please, have someone there to protect you. Often the sheriff or the police will come so that the eviction goes without trouble. Also contact an attorney to make sure your daughter cannot come back and sue you. I don't see how she can, but you know anyone can file a lawsuit nowadays.

But you also do one thing - when she leaves - change that lock and have her things out of the house. I know there is a granddaughter involved but you cannot be a hostage in this because of the granddaughter.

Also check if you need to report that $200.00 on your income tax. But that is the least important now. Do that later, after the dust settles.

If I lived in the same town, I would come and help you. I cannot stand grown up kids who do that to their parents. Good luck.

You let him hit your daughter and then still let him him live in the house and did not call the police, How in the world can you do that, have you no concern over the safety of the grandchild, he may hit the child next, a abuser is a abuser, he will continue to hit your daughter and most likely the child as time goes by, he needs to be in jail and most certainly out of you house NOW>>>>

Since they pay rent you will have to give her a 30 day notice to evict,
But as noted, they will use the grandchild to blackmail you into all sorts of things,

Her boyfriend does not live with us. He came to get my granddaughter and they got into a fight. I went upstairs and asked him to leave, I have called the police in the past. But, she keeps going back and forth.

I told her that he is not welcomed in this house. She's trying to say "too bad". Then she had her nerve to say that maybe my husband should have knocked me around a few times. I cannot believe that she even said that. She is truly out of it. She said she had not respect for me, and I shouldn't of opened my "big mouth" by telling the him to leave. She needs a reality check but, she thinks I don't have any recourse and she doesn't have to leave if she doesn't have to leave until she is good and ready. That's why I want to formally get her out legally so she knows we mean business. She continually uses my granddaughter as leverage. My husband is the one who babysat my granddaughter (while waiting for an organ/he was on an organ donor list) everyday even though he was sick. I told my daughter that her dad could not continue to do that due to his health. Finally, after 3 years she finally sent her to preschool a montesorri school that my cousin was the director for and was only charged $200 /mo for full-time. She didn't pay that, then she expected my husband to babysit again (he makes good money the baby's dad but, he blows it on expensive things they both do). I can't make her decisions for her but, I just pray for my granddaughter.

Yes, since she is charged rent even though she did not pay, there as a landlord/renter relationship set up. So you will need to give her written notice to vacate ( move) and then when she does not at the end of 30 days, you will file for official eviction with the courts.

** now that is legally what you are suppose to do, personaly as I did with one of my teen boys back in the day, they merely came home to find their clothes in trash bags on the front porch and I said so what, since I would never ever allow a child to live one day in my home showing such disrespect. ( but I am very old school, and would rather defend myself if they found money to try and sue me for unlawful eviction, than put up with their bull)