My son just turned 18. He has reclused into his room and will not come out unless I am gone, or in bed. He does not have any friends, a car, a job anymore. I cannot get him to talk to me. He has never raised his voice to me but he shows me no respect by ignoring me constantly. He will not talk to any members of the family.
I have told him to get a job otherwise I would kick him out. He has made it clear he will not get a job, and that he will stay there until I kick him out. He tells me things are none of my business. He has never been this way before, I am really worried, however I'm exhausted and fed up with his attitude and lack of respect for me.
He has never voiced anything, but his behavior is definitely not normal, anyone who stays in room for 7 months not contact to the outside world, its got to do something. He swears to me that he is not depressed. I am afraid that his behavior is so bizarre that he could end up a threat to society. What can I do? :confused:

Honestly he sounds depressed.

Did he lose his job? Are his friends off to college? What happened to the people who were in his life?

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

Honestly he sounds depressed.

Did he lose his job? Are his friends off to college? What happened to the people who were in his life?

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I agree with Glinda,
Where did his friends go?
Have any of them recently moved?
Lost his girlfriend?

Or any other people close to him?

If it were me... I'd pack his stuff up for him and let him know you mean business and are still the Parent and that is YOUR home. He might be depressed, but he doesn't have to disrepect you or your family. "Kids" at that age are very head strong... ( I know, my baby is 18, so I've been through 3 others! ) Stay strong !

It sounds like depression. What exactly happened 7 months ago? Is there any way to get medical advice or counseling. Something must have happened to him. As far as ignoring you, well, he obviously has his reasons. Sometimes pushing somebody to get out or even trying to do things to force him out will make the situation worse. It just all depends on what is going on, but it has been going on way too long I think you need to speak to a professional to get guidance on what to do.

If you kick him out it will teach him a lesson. That's what my parents did to me. Is it possible that he is on drugs, that's why I was kicked out, I was staying in my room all the time doing drugs and my parents found out. They noticed I was acting different and always in my room then they decided to walk in on me and threw me out till I got smart and sobered up. Im clean now, even if drugs aren't the case it might help to kick him out, don't worry he'll be back

Of course your son is so depression, he need immediate attention and contact the doctor for anti-depression medicines or else! Not quite normal for him to be in his room all the time, is he on the computer? Hope he doesn't do something stupid, do something about it now. He's just hiding himself in the shell than facing out of the world around him.

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Originally Posted by jillhanna

My son just turned 18. He has reclused into his room and will not come out unless I am gone, or in bed. He does not have any friends, a car, a job anymore. I cannot get him to talk to me. He has never raised his voice to me but he shows me no respect by ignoring me constantly. He will not talk to any members of the family.
I have told him to get a job otherwise I would kick him out. He has made it clear he will not get a job, and that he will stay there until I kick him out. He tells me things are none of my business. He has never been this way before, I am really worried, however I'm exhausted and fed up with his attitude and lack of respect for me.
He has never voiced anything, but his behavior is definitely not normal, anyone who stays in room for 7 mos not contact to the outside world, its got to do something. He swears to me that he is not depressed. I am afraid that his behavior is so bizarre that he could end up a threat to society. What can I do? :confused:

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I suggest you to contact Dr. Phil or Maury to get him into boot camp!

You know normally on adult children living at home, that will not work and help around the house, I am the first to pack their clothes,change the locks and put them out.

But this does sound like one of two things, one a drepression or other mental illnesss or possible drug usage, if it is drug usage I don't have a problem setting them out either. But you need to get them to a doctor to find the real issues.

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Originally Posted by jillhanna

My son just turned 18. He has reclused into his room and will not come out unless I am gone, or in bed. He does not have any friends, a car, a job anymore. I cannot get him to talk to me. He has never raised his voice to me but he shows me no respect by ignoring me constantly. He will not talk to any members of the family.
I have told him to get a job otherwise I would kick him out. He has made it clear he will not get a job, and that he will stay there until I kick him out. He tells me things are none of my business. He has never been this way before, I am really worried, however I'm exhausted and fed up with his attitude and lack of respect for me.
He has never voiced anything, but his behavior is definitely not normal, anyone who stays in room for 7 mos not contact to the outside world, its got to do something. He swears to me that he is not depressed. I am afraid that his behavior is so bizarre that he could end up a threat to society. What can I do? :confused:

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Kick him out