Im 19, and just recently started talking to this guy who I have know practically all of my life, we went to the same school for years and really never had feelings for him. During high school he told me that he liked me, but I neva liked him. He dated a girl in high school and out of high school for 3 years. Then about 3 months ago, I created me a myspace and we caught up on the things in life(still dating his g/f). We begin to talk every night and he told me things with his g/f were rocky and they end up breaking up. Yea for me... lol... but I end up losing my virginity to this guy... after talking for about a month and a half... After about 2 months of us talking one night he tells me you remind me of my ex g/f of all the good times we once had... I break down:(... so he tries to get back with her and she doesn't want him because he slept with me... so we begin to start talking again... and now I asked him last night if we would ever have a relationship together he told me Yes... but then I asked him if he misses her he said yes... so what is up with him... should I leave him alone?? We have been talking for about 3 1/2 months now... how much time does he need?:confused: because I do like him a lot because he was my first.. and now I feel attached to him PLEASE HELP... ANYTHING IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!

It sounds like he never got over his ex. I would give him some space and let him mourn the end of that relationship before jumping into anything with him.

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Originally Posted by pepper82688

Im 19, and just recently started talking to this guy who I have know practically all of my life, we went to the same school for years and really never had feelings for him. During high school he told me that he liked me, but I neva liked him. He dated a girl in high school and out of high school for 3 years. Then about 3 months ago, I created me a myspace and we caught up on the things in life(still dating his g/f). We begin to talk everynight and he told me things with his g/f were rocky and they end up breakin up. Yea for me...lol...but I end up losin my virginity to this guy...after talkin for about a month and a half...After about 2 months of us talking one night he tells me you remind me of my ex g/f of all the good times we once had...I break down:( ....so he tries to get back with her and she doesn't want him b/c he slept with me...so we begin to start talking again...and now I asked him last night if we would ever have a relationship together he told me Yes...but then I asked him if he misses her he said yes...so what is up with him...should i leave him alone??? We have been talking for about 3 1/2 months now...how much time does he need?:confused: because i do like him alot b/c he was my first..and now i feel attached to him PLEASE HELP...ANYTHING IS GREATLY APPRECIATED!!!

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Ok come on now... I know you can tell me a little bit of advice... PLEASE :(

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Originally Posted by pepper82688

Ok come on now...I know you can tell me a little bit of advice...PLEASE :(

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I said you should give him space. You should also go no contact with him and let him deal with this on his own. He cannot get over his ex while still with you. To be honest, it sounds like he is using you while he still pines for his ex. The best thing for you to do is walk away, go no contact and move forward.

Fortunate he sounds like a very honest person and that in itself credits you; he respects you and feels that you have your head on tight. G of Oz makes good sense in her remarks. Good luck.

Yep, leave him alone. He is still hung up on his ex. Don't let him keep coming back having sex with you either. He needs to deal with his problems without adding to yours.