After 5 months of NC I met my ex accidentely in the pub. I had to walk passed him and I only wanted to say hello and leave it with that, but he really made an effort of turning around and star a conversation with me. I kept it really happy, but short. Later when his new girlfriend put her arms around him he looked very sad. My friend said he was keeping an eye on me all the time he was there. Could it mean something?

Well he still has a girl friend. That should tell you something. If he wanted you he would have left his current girl friend before seeing you. He is was probably just remembering the relationship. I'd say it means nothing. Don't even go there.

Doesn't matter. He is your ex and has a new girlfriend now he clearly made his choice. Don't let this backslide you. 5 months of no contact is awesome and is really hard to do you should be focusing on moving forward not trying to move backwards with him.

Also, just this summer, I was with my new girlfriend a bunch. And many times, we ran into my ex. My ex and I broke up about a year ago. I never looked sad around my new girlfriend. I liked her much more than the ex. However, if I did run into my ex with my new girlfriend, I would not really be as cuddly and warm with my girlfriend until the ex was gone.

My main rationale for this, as stupid as it maybe was not to "rub it in" my ex's face. I figure regardless of what happened, I would never want to see one of my ex's having a grand old time with someone new right in front of me. It some ways, that is unnecessary vengeance.

I was very happy with my new girlfriend. We broke because she moved back home. However, whenever she and I ran into my ex, I didn't want to really show off to my ex how much happier I was. I figured there was no need. In some ways, I though it was rude. And also, I realize I would not like it, if my ex did so in front of me.

And no, I have no lingering emotions for my previous ex. She was quite awful and I would never look back.

--Cali

Ilovcali,

I can understand your reasons! But he looked very sad and I suppose everybody is different and acts different. He is with this girl now and that I have to accept. The stupid thing is after 5 months NC he is still in my mind and it upsets me to see him with or without girlfriend. I don't show that to him though. It's a very slow process of letting go! I am doing fine by the way, am quite strong. I just know that it doesn't happen a lot that you meet somebody you really like .