I've gone back to work 1 month ago after my extended Maternity leave. My son is 16 months old and seems to be forming a bond with his Nanny. I thought this was great at first, but he seems to want to be with her more then he does with me. When I go to pick him up, he leans towards her. He's not as excited to see me (like he use to be). What should I do?? Our nanny is with him breakfast, lunch and dinner. I was thinking maybe I should try to establish a routine where I would get up , get his breakfast then pass him over to her when I'm about to leave for work .Then for dinner to have it as a family without the nanny present? Any suggestions? I'm thinking of quitting, please help.

I think that your ideas are brilliant. If your son only sees the nanny and never gets alone time with you then of course he's going to go twords the nanny. Try what you said about just having breakfast and dinner alone with your family (the nanny might like a break anyway), also try to plan special excursions or put away some time to spend with him. Your obviously a busy mom, but it's important that your son have time with just you even if it is only every once and a while.

Your suggestions about spending more meal times with your son sound good.

I wouldn't worry too much about your son wanting the nanny more than you - you're his mum, and I'm sure he knows that! Remember he gets the nanny's undivided attention for almost an entire day, so it's reasonable that he might feel comfortable with her.

You probably just need to do more 'mum' things together with him where the relationhsip between you is the focus.