I haven't heard any of his reasons for leaving or for living with this Ho but if and when I do hear what he has to say. WHAT REASON WOULD BE GOOD ENOUGH?

There is probably no reason good enough to ease your aching heart. It is better to stop asking "why" and just move on as best you can. Maybe he deserves the Ho and maybe you deserve better than him.

None!

I asked this question because I've heard through the grapevine that he started to panic about where our relationship was heading. Before he left we were talking about marriage and he was the one that brought it up. Is panic a reasonable reason to make a HUGE mistake?

No being an immature child is why he did what he did. There are no excuses good enough on this planet for what he did. He dumped you, your long relationship, all of your feelings, wants and needs out the window for a piece of . There could be no excuse good enough for me.

No offense DJ but no man who really, truly, deeply, forever loved you would do this. Not one. If his intentions were to really marry you he would not have taken off with the first girl to drop her panties. Sure he might have freaked out at the idea of spending the rest of his life with you but he bailed when things were scary and there was something staring him in the face that was forever.

My opinion is that if you did take him back that he would do this again right before the wedding, if you took him back after that he would do this right after you get pregnant and so on and so forth.

I had a really close guy friend in college who got married a few years ago. He was the biggest player on the planet. He loved the girls the way they needed and it kept them happy. Whenever things got too serious he would start sleeping with anyone who agreed. Then he would realize he messed up and would try to get the girl back. He is now married and nothing has changed. NOTHING.

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Originally Posted by GlindaofOz

No being an immature child is why he did what he did. There are no excuses good enough on this planet for what he did. He dumped you, your long relationship, all of your feelings, wants and needs out the window for a piece of . There could be no excuse good enough for me.

no offense DJ but no man who really, truly, deeply, forever loved you would do this. Not one. If his intentions were to really marry you he would not have taken off with the first girl to drop her panties. Sure he might have freaked out at the idea of spending the rest of his life with you but he bailed when things were scary and there was something staring him in the face that was forever.

My opinion is that if you did take him back that he would do this again right before the wedding, if you took him back after that he would do this right after you get pregnant and so on and so forth.

I had a really close guy friend in college who got married a few years ago. He was the biggest player on the planet. He loved the girls the way they needed and it kept them happy. whenever things got too serious he would start sleeping with anyone who agreed. Then he would realize he messed up and would try to get the girl back. He is now married and nothing has changed. NOTHING.

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God Glinda you're right. He couldn't possibly love me. I just thought maybe he was in a panic and wanted to see if he wanted a different life. But you're right, Oh my God he doesn't love me at all

But you know what its better to find this out now. Just because he was a jerk and ended up acting like this does not mean that everyone will.