This is a very long story. Basically, I found out when I was 30 that the man who raised me was not my biological father. He loved me as his own and he is (was, passed away when 16) my Dad and Father. However, my entire family knew about this including my deceased father. My bio-father was my mother's cousin (by marriage). Back in the day when I was born, my mother was treated badly, run out of town, etc, etc. She has endured the ridicule of this for many years. Many years of being a single mother and going without, blah, blah. My mother (before her passing and when she finally told me of my bio-father) wanted me to find my other siblings, get to know them, let them know they have a sister. I also have some very serious health issues that need attention. It is odd to go to the doctor and fill out paper when they ask about your father's medical issues. I really don't know.

My question is this. What should I do and how can I handle notifying my sperm donor that I want to know my family history, medically and genealogy. What rights to I have to contact my, now grown, siblings. And if and when my bio-father passes... am I entitled to his will? Back child support, etc.

Please point me in the right direction and I fell like I am just so lost. Mostly with my illnesses and some that have crept up on my children as well as grandchildren.

Thank you,

Boophappens

Yes, you have the right to contact your siblings and bio-dad. You are an adult and may attempt to contact anyone you chose. I am not so sure you will be entitled to any of his estate though. You can have a motherless paternity test done but you will need to contact a lawyer to find out what you would have rights to after that.

I also doubt if you would have any claim on his estate. Especially not if he has a will that doesn't name you.

As Tawny said, you can contact anyone you want, but I would go slow with this. You don't say what the circumstances were of your birth. Was this a rape of your mother, consensual or what? Before I can advise how to attemtp contact, I would want to know more.

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Originally Posted by dlakey

My question is this. What should I do and how can I handle notifying my sperm donor that I want to know my family history, medically and geneology. What rights to I have to contact my, now grown, siblings. And if and when my bio-father passes...am I entitled to his will? Back child support, etc.

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First- much time has passed and you have no rights for back CS,estate and etc unless your BF is willing to give something to you.

No right to any back child support

You may have a right to challenge his will if you are not named in it at all.

You have no actual "right" to contact 1/2 brothers or sisters, but again there is nothing that says you can't either. You have just as much "right" as you would to call me up and talk to me. If they do not wish to talk to you, they are not required to

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I also doubt if you would have any claim on his estate. Especially not if he has a will that doesn't name you.

As Tawny said, you can contact anyone you want, but I would go slow with this. You don't say what the circumstances were of your birth. Was this a rape of your mother, consensual or what? Before I can advise how to attemtp contact, I would want to know more.

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I am new to this sight and hope this is the correct way to answer people who have given me suggestions. Consensual, no rape. He strayed from his wife, met my mother. They were in love, mom got pregnant with me. His wife threatened him and basically was forced to go back to his wife. I am concerned mostly about my medical history, etc. I have a right to know my true geneololy. I am not sure how to begin such a letter. Let me know if there are any suggestions that you have. I think that I am in the wrong area to answer other people, I will check it out more.
Thank you

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I am new to this sight and hope this is the correct way to answer people who have given me suggestions.

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First, may I call your attention to the guidelines for using the comments feature found here:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/feedba...ure-24951.html

Your negative comment to GV70 was not appropriate since his answer was factual. Adding a reply to the thread, as you did, is the correct way to ask follow-up questions or debate someone's answer. But a negative comment should only be used in cases of inaccurate advice.

That said, I would keep any letter simple and formal. Something to the effect of:

Dear Mr Smith,

I have recently been made aware that you are my biological father. This has given me concerns that I have a correct family medical history for now and the future. I am contacting you in the hopes that you will supply such a background for me.

I would also like to get to know this additional family I now find I have. But I understand if you are your family are unwilling to accept me into your family. If that is your decision, I can accept that, and am willing to just get the medical info I need.

Thank you for whatever help you can provide.

Interesting... I have ever believed that here is a LEGAL board,not an elementary school
Where the chidren are tought how a letter can be written.
First-you have an established father who may or may not to be your biological one.
Second-for the country,state,county,court and etc the issue is who the legal father is.
Third-you CANNOT establish your BF parenthood before to disestablish your legal father status.
Fourth-there is a statute of limitations.
Fifth-No one can force your BF and half siblings to contact with you.
Sixth-I am not pretty sure that your goal is to know your medical history ONLY.

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...am I entitled to his will? Back child support, etc.

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Challenging a will of my biological father, can it be done, etc.

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YES-that is not Just the help you were looking for.That is the law.
Give me the reddie again because you are NOT entitled to your BF money and properties.

GV70
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GV70
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It is... WHAT?:confused: