Hello well where shall I start,been with my partner for a year now I'm 19 he is 32 a bit of a gap, I'm 38 weeks pregnant, when we first met I lived at home with my dad and he lived in at work(hotel) witch was where we met, he lived about 200 miles away from his parents so didn't see them often, they have two other grandchildren but they live in holland so they don't see them much, so when we told them the news about us being pregnant they were over the moon, then we decided we should move to be closer to them, and now so we are too close!! I don't have any friends or family down here I'm alone,
Well they would phone us telling us not to get a cot a chair lots of little bits for the baby cause they had got them we never asked for them! But we are very grateful for them. But I now don't like it down here I'm very lonely and want to move a bit closer to my family I don't drive so I can't just jump in the car and go to visit them, well ill get to the point the other week I wanted to go to my bros and he was going to pick me up only for the weekend,
Until I got a phone call, his mother, you are irresponsible an unfit mother going a long journey in a car when your pregnant!! Saying if I go there they will take all the things away that they have bought for the baby,
That they have washed there hands of me if I go, and that they are going to take me to court to get full custody of the baby and I isn't got a leg to stand on?? Have they got that right?? can they do that?? I am not happy here, but they are threatening me if I go? They say they want to be proper nan and grandad, they still can be we will only be a drive away I am worried they will leave me right in it I'm 38 weeks pregnant and if they took All the stuff away I wouldn't havetime to buy all the things?? Are they blackmailing me?? And my partner just says you wanted to move down here he's not very supportive help me plus. Xx

I think that is terribly wrong. Your parents need to leave you alone and just keep supporting you. What you do is none of their business. They have no right to take your baby especially if he/she isn't born. I really hope and I pray you keep the baby.Good Luck!

Im 24 weeks pregnant and I've been on a flight abroad and I'm absolutely fine and so will you be taking a car journey, all you need to do is take regular breaks to strech your legs and buy some travel socks, your partners parents are being a bit stupid and to take all that action just because you want to take a car journey well that's a bit childish.
They proberbly think that your going to go away and never come back with there grandchild, I think you need to lay down some rules before this child arrives because if you don't they are going to completely take over and they will use all the things they have bought for the baby against you to make you feel guilty because they have done this nice thing for you. But its YOU who is the child's mother and that's what a baby needs its mother.
I don't know much about law and I think it may be different where I live but I don't think they can take no legal action against you because you haven't done anything wrong, and yes they are blackmailing you, you could take action against them.
And as for your partner I think you should speak to him about how he's not being supportive because if he's not being supportive now what's it going to be like when the baby arrives.

As long as your doctor clears you for travel, then it is fine. I would check with my doctor before I did.

Next they are talking bull, and the sooner you let them know you are not going to let them run your life the better you will be. Plus I will hope, HE is tell HIS mom to mind her own business, he better be standing up for you, or you have a sad time ahead

I agree with everyone go talk to your doc for sure before you leave and they can't take your baby that's not as easy as it seems yiu go see your brother then take care of yourself maybe you should stay with your mom and dad so you don't have to have these worries...

Be safe and take care of u

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Originally Posted by mishelly3

I agree with everyone go talk to your doc for sure before you leave and they can't take your baby thats not as easy as it seems yiu go see your brother then take care of yourself maybe you should stay with your mom and dad so you dont have to have these worries...

Be safe and take care of u

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