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My sister told me not to tell anyone she is 2 weeks pregnant but she told me she is getting an abortion this week she is only 16 years old and I am 14 I don't want her to get an abortion she said this her second one but please how can I not talk her out not to get an abortion please need an answer as soon as possible thank you!! :)
If your parents are against abortion, then tell them what is going on. She may not like you for a while, but they have a right to know that this is going on. Two abortions by the age of 16 is ridiculous.
By the way, how does she know she's 2 weeks pregnant?
If this is even legitimate... how on earth can she know she is two weeks pregnant, she wouldn't have even missed a period yet. Abortion is dangerous and not a form of birth control. I agree, tell your parents, she is running the risk of damaging her body, and may not be able to have children later in life when they are wanted. Not to mention the complete lack of self respect and respect for human life. I am pro-choice, but this is just ignorance. Your parents need to get her on some form of birth control.
Hun, the previous posters are right. First, your sister probably doesn't even know for sure if she's pregnant. It doesn't sound like she could possibly know at this point, which means she probably doesn't know her body well enough yet. If she said she's 2 weeks late from her period... it doesn't mean she's pregnant. It's normal to be late like that... especially at 16.
Second, you really have to tell your parents or a trusted adult. IF she IS pregnant, she will need their help, no doubt about it. If she isn't pregnant, she will need their help so she can learn about her health better and how to protect herself from getting pregnant or a disease. Don't worry about making her mad... telling your parents could literally save her life. I know she's your older sister, but that doesn't mean she can handle what's going on... she needs your help.
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Sometimes the only way to help is to tell an adult that can help. At 16 she will make choices without thinking of the consequences and then hate herself for those choices later in life. She isn't thinking rationally and she needs an adult to help her through this.
If this is her idea of birth control then she is really messing up her body. Abortions can cause complications in a future pregnancy. She needs to think before she acts and sometimes the only way you can get through to her is to tell an adult. This is serious.
I have to disagree with the other posts on this one. Even at 16 I think a girl has the right to make her own decisions about her body. If she is pregnant and wants an abortion that's her choice to make. That's why there are institutions like planned parenthood out there. They believe in choice and keep things confidential even for minors. Who knows what this girl may do to her body in order to get rid of a pregnancy she doesn't want, I think its safer if she just has the abortion, there's only a slight risk that something may go wrong but its better than forcing someone to keep a kid they don't want.
Here are the abortion laws for the US and abroad
Teen Abortion Laws in the United States
The World's Abortion Laws
Why don't we see what the laws are in the locality of the OP.
I disagree... I believe that a girl deserves the right, believe me IM very strongly opinionated about being pro-choice, but the problem is not that the girl is pregnant, it is that the girl is getting a second abortion. While the risk is small for one abortion, multiple abortions are not considered safe. The girl needs parental intervention to teach her respect for her body and for humand life. She is using abortion as a way out of her mistakes, rather than facing them and learning from them . Abortion should not be used as birth control.Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsHec4
I agree alkaline she having unprotected sex, which means passing body fluids that could also mean passing infections, aids, herpes etc... Do your sister a favor and tell it could save her life.
Like Alkaline said. This isn't a matter of her rights. It is instead the fact that she has had two abortions at 16. She has obviously decided to use this as a form of birth control. If she's done it twice at 16 who's to say she won't do it again? This is like an easy way out in her eyes. You need to tell your parents what's going on. This could easily be a matter of life or death. Your sister could be in big trouble, if she isn't already. She needs to be more responsible at her age!! If she doesn't want a child, then she knows what she needs to do to prevent it (and it's NOT get multiple abortions).
I definitely agree that having multiple abortions is unsafe and she shouldn't be using it as a form of birth control and maybe she should be on birth control (pill, patch) and an intervention is needed. Someone needs to talk to this girl about what she is doing to herself but I wouldn't go so far as to say it needs to be her parents maybe a counselor at the clinic or a teacher or close adult relative. Some parents aren't necessarily understanding in delicate situations such as this and I have seen some families completely destroyed over things just like this.
This young lady is 16 and getting ready to have a second abortion? She is obviously not mature enough to be making those kinds of decisions. She doesn't even know how to not get pregnant. How does she even know she' pregnant. She could also have STDs.
Besides, I think it is a crock, that I have to sign for my child to take asprin at school until she's 18, but she can have an abortion without my knowledge. Then if something goes wrong and she has to go to the hospital, I have to sign for medical procedures. That is seriously wrong.
You tell your parents what your sister is up to. They have every right to know.
She should not it not healthyQuote:
Originally Posted by tarnishak98
I don't believe in abortion but that's just my personal belief, but I can maybe understand one if it was truly and accident and she's not intending on it happening again. But for this to keep re-occurring itself, she's being careless with herself and life in general and I think its about time she takes responsibility for what's happening. Not only does she need to learn that abortion is not a way of birth control, she needs to be educated on how repeated abortions are detrimental to her future reproductive life. And she needs to learn what birth control is.. this is ridiculous...
I would definitely take the advice of Homegirl50 in her answer above!Quote:
Originally Posted by Homegirl 50
Where is she getting the money for the abortion? I would definitely tell your parents.
You must remind her that abortion is wrong any way you look at it. There are families out there that want to have children but can't. If people like your sister would have their babies and give them up for adoption there would be peace of mind to her in knowing that her child is in a happy home instead of her killing it!!Quote:
Originally Posted by tarnishak98
Assuming your sister actually IS pregnant (which I doubt from the sounds of it), the choice to keep the baby or not is her decision; not yours, not your parents. Assuming she had a previous abortion (again, which I doubt), it is obvious she does not know much about the mature female body and is behaving irresponsibly. If she's lying about these happenings, she is showing her lack of maturity, and probably needs someone to talk to. Your parents might not be that someone. Only you know what your home situation is like and only you can estimate how your parents will react to such news. Will they kick her out of the house? Will they "force" her to have the baby? Will they beat her? Or will they hug her and tell her they will work through this as a family? Only you can possibly know the answer to that. You also are the only one who can guess what great lengths your sister will go to to end this (alleged) pregnancy. Telling your parents might not be the answer, but gathering information for your sister about the risks of multiple abortions and unprotected sex might have an effect. If you think your parents might react in a way that will be damaging to your sister, find another trusted adult to talk to who won't behave the same way. That way your sister can get the help she needs regardless of if this pregnancy is real or not.
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