Hi, my son turns 4 in December, since he's been 2 we made his bedroom up, turned his cot into a bed and made it into a right litlle boys room, cars, bob the builder,
Anyway when I put him 2 bed I usually read him a story, and he falls asleep in his own bed, but EVERY night around 2-3am, (uk time) he seems to wander into our bedroom and slips in right beside me, a numbr of times I've put him back in his own bed but he just cries the house down, I've explained to him that he is a big boy now, and that his friends also sleep all night in their own bed, I've even bribed him with buying new toys for him but nothn seems to work.
My main concern is having anotha baby and he is still doing this, I couldn't cope with 2 babies in the bed aswel as my husband - lol, has anyone experienced this or going through it, please help
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Its normal for children to wake up frightened and want mommy to comfort them, but The reason he keeps doing it is because you continue to let him. You can not give up. It may mean a couple of sleepless nights, but it is important to set the boundaries and enforce them. Every time he comes in, move him back and shut his door if he insists on crying. Tell him its time for sleeping not crying... he will eventually give up. Try letting him pick out a stuffed animal to cuddle with at night if he wakes up and is scared. If it helps, start by going to him and helping him go back to sleep in his room by singing or rubbing his head or whatever, gradually move your way out of the room night to night. He needs to learn that Your room is a sacred place for mommy and daddy, and his room is for him. Good luck, I think we have all been through this at one point or another.. :)

Here's some info I found on the net for you.
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http://www.babycenter.com/400_how-ca...500122_1000.bc
My 30-month-old daughter wouldn't stay in her new toddler bed either. The first two naps and nights were OK, then she discovered that she really could get up even though we had told her to stay in bed. The next 6 days of naps and nights were terrible! Threats of not being allowed to watch her favorite TV show after her nap only worked once. Following through on that and not letting her watch the show didn't change her bedtime behavior. After reasoning with her, making sure her bed was very appealing, reminding her that the crib was sparse and "yucky" now... none of that worked other than to wear us out and get no sleep. Since we have a colic-y 3-month-old, we needed our sleep so we kept resorting to putting our stubborn toddler back into her old crib (instead of her toddler bed) after too many times of her getting out of her bed. After night #6 of frustration, I researched other parents comments here on BabyCenter.com. Thanks to the comments of many parents, we now have had a week of easy nights and naptimes! We realized that we needed to be firm and consistent... and to not give her the attention she was looking for. (I have watched the SuperNanny show and yet I didn't think to apply the technique in our own case.) Here's what we do: We go through our normal bedtime routine as we have always done (PJ's, brush teeth, story, prayer, kisses, tucking in, close door). When she gets up -- which she still does once or maybe twice -- we immediately walk her back into her room and put her back in bed without talking to her or making eye contact and then we walk back out and close the door. We are not angry or mean in our body language or expression, but are kind and loving with our behavior while we make sure to keep very serious, blank faces. It usually only takes one or two times before she realizes that we are serious about "bedtime is bedtime" although at first some nights required 30-45 minutes of consistancy. Some nights and naps she doesn't even bother trying to get up even once. I think that in another week or so, she will be even better. I would highly suggest this technique to anyone who is struggling with the "stay in bed" battle.
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Originally Posted by alkalineangel

Its normal for children to wake up frightened and want mommy to comfort them, but The reason he keeps doing it is because you continue to let him. You can not give up. It may mean a couple of sleepless nights, but it is important to set the boundaries and enforce them. Everytime he comes in, move him back and shut his door if he insists on crying. Tell him its time for sleeping not crying...he will eventually give up. Try letting him pick out a stuffed animal to cuddle with at night if he wakes up and is scared. If it helps, start by going to him and helping him go back to sleep in his room by singing or rubbing his head or whatever, gradually move your way out of the room night to night. He needs to learn that Your room is a sacred place for mommy and daddy, and his room is for him. good luck, I think we have all been through this at one point or another.. :)

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thanks for the answer, but honestly most nights I'm sooo knackered, I don't want to be going forward and backward alll night and giv into him, sum nights I don't even realise he's in the bed until mornin. He always takes a fav toy to bed with him, whether it be a small car, cuddly toy. I will need to start sooner rather than later to put in practice what u have said

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Originally Posted by firmbeliever

Here's some info I found on the net for you.
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BabyCenter -- How can we get our toddler to stay in bed?
My 30-month-old daughter wouldn't stay in her new toddler bed either. The first two naps and nights were OK, then she discovered that she really could get up even though we had told her to stay in bed. The next 6 days of naps and nights were terrible! Threats of not being allowed to watch her favorite TV show after her nap only worked once. Following through on that and not letting her watch the show didn't change her bedtime behavior. After reasoning with her, making sure her bed was very appealing, reminding her that the crib was sparse and "yucky" now...none of that worked other than to wear us out and get no sleep. Since we have a colic-y 3-month-old, we needed our sleep so we kept resorting to putting our stubborn toddler back into her old crib (instead of her toddler bed) after too many times of her getting out of her bed. After night #6 of frustration, I researched other parents comments here on BabyCenter.com. Thanks to the comments of many parents, we now have had a week of easy nights and naptimes! We realized that we needed to be firm and consistent...and to not give her the attention she was looking for. (I have watched the SuperNanny show and yet I didn't think to apply the technique in our own case.) Here's what we do: We go through our normal bedtime routine as we have always done (PJ's, brush teeth, story, prayer, kisses, tucking in, close door). When she gets up -- which she still does once or maybe twice -- we immediately walk her back into her room and put her back in bed without talking to her or making eye contact and then we walk back out and close the door. We are not angry or mean in our body language or expression, but are kind and loving with our behavior while we make sure to keep very serious, blank faces. It usually only takes one or two times before she realizes that we are serious about "bedtime is bedtime" although at first some nights required 30-45 mins of consistancy. Some nights and naps she doesn't even bother trying to get up even once. I think that in another week or so, she will be even better. I would highly suggest this technique to anyone who is struggling with the "stay in bed" battle.
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Hey thanks firmbeliever, great answer as usual, I also watched a few episodes of supernanny and she tackled this 'stay in bed', and I kind of worked it a few nights and then gave up, my problem is not having patience, I want everything in practise as soon as I say the word 'go', but I know it doesn't work that way, inshallah il try your method and c what happens, especially now in ramazan it'l be harder with my sleep patterns getting disturbed, but I'l try my best.

How is your 1st roza going by the way, alhumdo lillah I'm not even feeling I have a roza, finish work in next 10 minutes or so and go home to prepare iftari.

Assalaam alaikum sister,
Alhamdlillah!
Mine was a good roza, we have already broken the fast, now most are at the Tarawih prayers, I couldn't make it cause there is no one home to leave my daughter with.

Wa alaikum salaam.

Same problem to a tee. 2- 3 in the morning. It always scares the crap out of me. SCREAMS! I have been sleeping with her lately, and we are moving this weekend and will have a new start.

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Originally Posted by Greg Quinn

Same problem to a tee. 2- 3 in the morning. It always scares the crap out of me. SCREAMS! I have been sleeping with her lately, and we are moving this weekend and will have a new start.

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I know, one of my cousin had the same problem with their daughter, they now have 2 daughters, and she swears when 2nd baby came along and they put them in the same room, and the trouble sleeping 1st daughter slept in her bed all night.
I suppose I beta hurry and get baby no.2 in to solve the sleeping situation - lol.:p

I am sorry, this is a very very simple answer, you MAKE them sleep in their room in their bed, They only sleep somewhere else because you as the parent will not do your job every time properly.

You put them in their bed and let them cry, soon they will learn they will not win and stop.

No need for a lot of deep study, a lot of anything but being a real parent and doing a hard job sometimes