I would be very grateful for any advice anybody may have. After a very short relationship that then ended I found out I was pregnant-I did tell the father and after a while we decided to try and get back together. As time went on I found and that He was a very heavy drinker indeed and it made him both very grateful and abusive-not physically to me but emotionally and verbally. As time went on he said that he did love me,even though I was very unsure that he did , we did not live together, we each have our own homes. After a very stressfully pregnancy I gave birth to a baby boy,I also have a son and daughter from a previous marriage. The baby's father was not prepared to give up or even cut down on his drinking,I had hoped that once our baby was born things would change-I think they got worse. He began to be abusive to my 13 yr old son and very unpleasant to me,he didn't help me in any way,I hated his drinking-4/5 bottles of wine every night! He was not fit to be around any children. I have found out that he has got a past of violence,has been in young offenders and prison and is barred from clubs for fighting. I have given him so many chances but now enough is enough and I have told him its over. I am frightened,he is hounding me for accses of our baby who is 5 months old and I am not prepared to see him and take any more of his abuse. He finishes work and then drinks none stop until paralytic,hardly able to talk-he is not prepared to even admit he has a problem,even though this has obviously been his way of life for 15 years. He is also a heavy gambler and stopped paying maintenance as agreed-i will go to the csa. He is a unfit father,a bad role model and not safe to be alone with a baby or children-I need to prove this for all of our safety. What can I do please?
