Lets see my GF of 1.5 years was staying with me over the summer and she moved back into your apartment near the school and has been really busy. But has seem to find lots of time to spend on line chatting for hours on end and I was asking about a date and that I would like a little of her time and she got upset and decided she needs space, she say she wants to keep dating and that I'm her Mr wonderful. I've been giving her space by not calling or going to see her. I've been trying to keep myself busy but its hard and just don't know anything about why woman want space. I know she said she's not sure where we are going I really care for this woman I'm in Love with her but I'm not sure she feels the same way. Please Help?

Give all the space in the world . Your best hope is to disappear and let her realise what it s like without you. Be careful if she calls don't answer it's a trap. Let her sweat it out.

When she said she wants to kep dating who is she talking about you or soeone else??

What she means is that she really does care about you although she doesn't want to be with you right now. She also wants to keep you on hold in case she does decide that she wants to be with you later on.

Sounds like she is trying to let you down gently. The whole need space thing is usually an excuse.

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when she said she wants to kep dating who is she talking about you or soeone else???

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She was saying she wants to keep dating me.

Are you two an exclusive couple, if so its time to back off and give her space, as you are more emotionally invested than she is.

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She was saying she wants to keep dating me.

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I gather her actions don't support her words, and if she is that serious then I doubt you'd be confused as to what's going on here. So am I. A summer together should have brought you closer, and that's obviously not the case. You need to back off emotionally and physically and leave her alone, while you deal with your own life, as I don't feel your both as exclusive as you think at this time. If you press her, there will be a break up, so decide now that since she needs her space, you better get yours, and avoid the future confusion and heart break.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Are you two an exclusive couple, if so its time to back off and give her space, as you are more emotionally invested than she is.

I gather her actions don't support her words, and if she is that serious then I doubt you'd be confused as to whats going on here. So am I. A summer together should have brought you closer, and thats obviously not the case. You need to back off emotionally and physically and leave her alone, while you deal with your own life, as I don't feel your both as exclusive as you think at this time. If you press her, there will be a break up, so decide now that since she needs her space, you better get yours, and avoid the future confusion and heart break.

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I know I was being really clingy toward the end of summer when I knew she was getting ready to move back closer to campus and was feeling like she was going to leave, she keep telling me she's not leaving that she needs to be closer to school. I even started to feel jealous of her at that time. So I know what caused the problem. I've been leaving her alone but she called last night and wanted to say hello, and she said she'd call today if or when I will work on trying to not expect it. Funny thing we have a get together on Wednesday at a comedy club and we're suppose to go out for dinner first her Idea. I now I'm new to the area so she has been my main person socializing since my job doesn't give me the same contacts day in and day out I see new people everyday, so one thing I've been trying to figure out is a new social out so I'm not having to smother the girlfriend.

Are you admitting to being clingy and smothering, or is your lack of a social life to blame??

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Are you admitting to being clingy and smothering, or is your lack of a social life to blame???????

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Yes to both