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  • Sep 17, 2005, 01:25 PM
    starlababy
    Thanks!
    Thanks for all your help all!!
  • Sep 17, 2005, 01:47 PM
    shenda
    What matters most?
    You stated that you are staying around for this guy... does your future require you to leave and embark upon secondary education, if so... go for it... your beloved's pride was injured... men are protective and slightly insecure when they are not confident within. This is something you must earnestly ask yourself, if this is what you want in a man. Life will introduce you to situations whereby another will interact with you and you should not have to be worried about the pride of he who loves you, especially when your actions did not invite the response. He is hurt, somehow he feels that you have disrespected him, he is still immature in this area... Let him cool down and call you... in the meantime, set your feet in the direction of fulfilling that which matters most... your future... you are only given one life... live it to the fullest and let BS be as it is and move on... you have too much to do, experience and accomplish for the state and welfare of your being...
  • Sep 17, 2005, 02:15 PM
    starlababy
    Thanks!
    Thanks Shenda! Your advice was great! For some reason I want him back... I know he is holding me back but for some reason I want to be with him... I hope he calls me but its not looking that good... I know I shouldn't call him and I'm not going to this time... I just won't know what to do if he doesn't call...
  • Sep 17, 2005, 10:49 PM
    americanfool
    I am only 15 but I have had my bad and good with girls. I think u should give it a shot with him, besides he was drunk. :cool:
  • Sep 19, 2005, 12:40 PM
    NeedHondaHelp
    Do Not Go Back To Him!
    Seems to me he has serious issues - jealousy, immaturity... and I hate to say it, but anger issues. You did NOTHING wrong, and if he's acting like an a*hole, let him sulk alone and not keep bringing you down and blaming you for nothing. The fact that he made you fall down, humiliated you (in front of his friends, no less), threatened to call the cops when you were trying to work it out - all spell trouble. Do not make your future plans around him. Do what makes you happy. Trust me, I've been there (you didn't say how old you were), and yeah, it hurts, but it will get better - promise! Keep yourself busy. Cry if you have to, to your friends, get it out of your system, and you'll be even happier. Has he done this stuff in the past? I think, in one night, you saw what is the shape of things to come. Run, girl. You'll be okay. Hang in there and best of luck -
  • Sep 19, 2005, 08:12 PM
    letmeno
    Back up
    When a man is mad and does not want to talk and wants to be left alone do yourself and him a huge favor and BACK OFF! I am a woman and I know how it it, we want a resolution, closure, answers and to be content. You chasing him, yelling, screaming, and crying will only aggravate the situation. That is how most people end up saying things that they don't mean in the middle of a heated disscussion.
    As harmless as the whole thing may have been to you, another man kissing your cheek, hand, arm or is disrespectful in the eyes of your man. This happened in front of people, his ego was bruised. Keep in mind that they do have fragile ego's. When me and my guy go out together, and a guy speaks or talks, immediately I acknowledge my boyfriend, and introduce the two of them, and I never let go of his hand.
    I know that this is hard but you need to back up off him and let him sort out what he is feeling. Men do not like to feel emotions like jealousy, love or any other emotion that they are not in control of. He was dead wrong for leaving you @ the club. Especially in your inibriated state. But the fact that he was so pissed off, actually shows that he does indeed have some type of feelings for you. Back up off him and let him deal with his emotions. He will call.

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