I am so heartbroken... my fiancé of 2 years says he can't be in this relationship anymore. He has broken up with me so many times in this relationship, I don't even know why he stayed in it for this long. I feel like he just used me since I was always there for him through all of his problems... getting through the military, deployments, readjusting to being a civilian. He's still not working and he's been home for a year now. He's distant and pushes me away, and then says he's ready to set a wedding date. Las weekend he said he could never leave me. Except this past weekend he told me that he can't do this relationship anymore, and that he wants his cell phone back. He's broken up with me so many times in this relationship, calls me and then wants me back. I can't believe I accepted an engagement ring from him, but I love him so much. Why did he leave me? And will he ever want me back?

Why do you want such a loser back to your life? He broke up because he didn't want to have you in his life. He called you back and wanted you back before because no one else aside from you wants to love a loser like him. That is this simple!

Go NC then book a three month holiday round the world!

Let this be the last break up. You can do better than this. If you keep letting him back, he will keep leaving. Stop all contact, and disappear from his life, and find your own happiness.

"If you love someone let him free", if he is yours he will come back, if not he was never meant to be yours.

Heartbroken, I was in the same situation as you but I am the guy. My ex fiancé broke up with me 5-6 times in 5 years. It's been 9 months since she broke up with me and I am happy without her this time. She used me and is selfish. Please don't keep doing this to yourself it's a pattern with these selfish people. GO no contact and in about 4 months will start to feel the hurt go away. You can read my story in my profile.

A good defense is a better offense. He breaks up with you so make it on your terms. Next time he comes back tell him it's too late. Give him time. Men will change if they really want something but it takes time. I don't mean weeks I mean months to years. Good luck.

If you don't have something better to do with your life, than ride his roller coaster, your in big trouble! Get a life that makes you happy without him, and you won't have these problems.