Hie.. most the time in my life I am confused taking my virginity. Well, I had a girlfriend couple of years back. I didn't have sex with her as it was a very superficial thing for me. I had a true respect and feelings for her as I was not sure about our marriage I never thought of cheating on her anyway! Later, we broke off..! And I thought not having sex with her was one of the main reason. This thought keeps eating me out and I take myself as a loser!. am I? Its not that I don't like sex.. am straight and sexually a normal being... Its just that I truly loved and respected her! Now that I am mentally ready to deflower myself, I don't have her in my life anymore. Help.

You should be commended. Waiting for marriage to loose your virginity is the plan here. You simply had a grasp on your hormones and morals. Good job.

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Originally Posted by colorblind

Hie..most the time in my life i am confused taking my virginity. Well, I had a girlfriend couple of years back. I didn't have sex with her as it was a very superficial thing for me. I had a true respect and feelings for her as I was not sure about our marriage I never thought of cheating on her anyway! later, we broke off...!! and i thought not having sex with her was one of the main reason. This thought keeps eating me out and I take myself as a loser!!..am I?! its not that i dont like sex..am straight and sexually a normal being...Its just that I truely loved and respected her!. Now that I am mentally ready to deflower myself, I dont have her in my life anymore. help.

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1. YOU ARE NOT A LOSER! IF YOU THINK YOU ARE, THAT IS YOUR CHOICE.

2. Keep the morals, and focus on what is more important in your life right now.

3. Ppl should treat you with respect, if they don't then that's their own problem.

4. I am 23 now, older than you are. I haven't even given away my first kiss or virginity. Don't freak out,you keep it to the one you love and the right one. It's just simple, and if my story makes you feel better I'll be happy to guide you further.

In fact, you are 22 still a virgin can be a turn on for many good girls.;)

Good luck.:)

26, male, and still a virgin. I don't regret it and could care less about what other people think. I tell them when I get up in the morning at least I don't have to worry about if I got some girl pregnant. You are doing the right thing.

Congratulations. Seriously... wow. Dude, you rock.

Reading your post just made my day. Thanks, Colorblind.

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Hie..most the time in my life i am confused taking my virginity. Well, I had a girlfriend couple of years back. I didn't have sex with her as it was a very superficial thing for me. I had a true respect and feelings for her as I was not sure about our marriage I never thought of cheating on her anyway! later, we broke off...!! and i thought not having sex with her was one of the main reason. This thought keeps eating me out and I take myself as a loser!!..am I?! its not that i dont like sex..am straight and sexually a normal being...Its just that I truely loved and respected her!. Now that I am mentally ready to deflower myself, I dont have her in my life anymore. help.

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No hurry to experience just sex. Wait for the Someone who thinks you are a treasure and they are willing to sign a contract to be your life's spouse, thats how highly they treasure you. Then the intimate moments, those perfect and those imperfect, will bond you with your loved one.

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Originally Posted by bright_stone

No hurry to experience just sex. Wait for the Someone who thinks you are a treasure and they are willing to sign a contract to be your life's spouse, thats how highly they treasure you. Then the intimate moments, those perfect and those imperfect, will bond you with your loved one.

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Well said. Love and honor beats multiple, meaningless partners. It's no easy task finding finding a special someone though.

A loser is someone that has sex because that's what the other person wants... not because its what you want now.

Nothing wrong with being a virgin. And don't do anything till YOU decide you are ready.

Deflower?? Come on dude. I respect you for holding on to your virginity, but I think she might of left for other reasons. Again, congrats on being strong.

Theirs hope for sure it was a personal choice for me and the fact that it was the way I grew up

Well I have to say being a strong willed man with selfcontrol in a sex filled world is defintely a feat that's for sure at 29 years old I 2 am still a virgin mind you I have had my fair share of kissing ;] but you know as I have grown up through the years I have seen that I had it somewhat easier as I grew up I didn't have to worry about if I got a girl pregnant or if I had kids running around somewhere.I have also not had had any real serious relationships I had a relationship with a 31 year old woman when I was 21 and recently I met a 42 year old woman at that point I was 27 u know bieng friends with women isn't a bad thing who knows at somepoint they might have a friend who might end up being the one for you I look at this way I have done myself a greater service by waiting then not Props though for you holding on ;]

I know ho you are I'm 22 a virgin, kissed 1 girl and the only real g/f o ever ha but I've had girls I was talking 2 n all call me creepy and stuff because I wasn't throwing stupid lines at them and all

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i kno ho u r im 22 a virgin, kissed 1 girl and the only real g/f o ever ha but ive had girls i was talkin 2 n all call me creepy n stuff because i wasnt throwin stupid lines at them n all

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Sorry don't have a clue what you are talking about. TRY AGAIN.

Dude.. you are awsome. You should think of yourself as a prize. I know for sure that guys are so happy when they find a girl that has not slept with a million guys and never done things like drugs or alcohol. How do I know because I'm one of those girls and that concept should be the same for guys. When someone is ready to settle down and get married they don't want someone who is over used, you know. Plus as you know abstinence is the only way to avoid pregnancy and venereal diseases. That stuff is very rampant these days. So show your pride.