Ask Me Help Desk - Laws on dead beat husbands?

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Join Date: Aug 2007
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Husband don't work,, I have been married to a man for 19yrs he was in the united states navy for 9 yrs he was medcialy discharged on 0 percent, ever since then he was put on meds for depression, add, bipolar, the bottom line is he doesn't work,, he owns his own business he is a truck driver has his own truck could make a lot of money but refuses to get off his butt and work, his mother pays the rent and his older brother lives with us so he helps out when he can, I have 4 kids with him I have to go back to work here this week 40 to 45 hrs a week while he sits on his butt all day and dones nothing, I mean nothing he doesn't evn pick up a dish to wash it but he is the 1st at the table to eat.. my question is this, if there is a law when your divorce on paying child surport isn't there a law on paying when you live with them? My story is a long one,, he refuses to move out, plus he has nowhere to go cause he has no one to go to,, I am at the end of my rope with this situation

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Originally Posted by jackie223

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Join Date: Aug 2007
Posts: 16
husband dont work,,,i have been married to a man for 19yrs he was in the united states navy for 9 yrs he was medcialy discharged on 0 percent,,ever since then he was put on meds for depression,,add,,bipolar,,the bottom line is he doesnt work,,,he owns his own business he is a truck driver has his own truck could make alot of money but refuses to get off his butt and work,,his mother pays the rent and his older brother lives with us so he helps out when he can,,i have 4 kids with him i have to go back to work here this week 40 to 45 hrs a week while he sits on his butt all day and dones nothing,,i mean nothing he doesnt evn pick up a dish to wash it but he is the 1st at the table to eat..my question is this,,if there is a law when your divorce on paying child surport isnt there a law on paying when you live with them? my story is a long one,,,he refuses to move out,,plus he has nowhere to go cause he has noone to go to,,,,iam at the end of my rope with this situation

I think you are prime candidate for marriage counseling. There obviously are issues in this relationship that need to be addressed. It doesn't seem by your message that you want to throw in the towel and get a divorce. The only other option is to try and work it out. Take the bull by the horns and hit the issue head on... with a little help. Good luck.

Thank you for your answer but yes I do want out of this marriage,, its not easy.I have 4 kids the easy thing would be for him to move out he just has himself to worry about, I can bring the kids to brooklyn New York where I was raised but that doesn't seem fair to the kids or the family I will be staying with,, I can't make him move he won't go,plus he has no one to go to he has pushed everyone away from him... I start my job this coming Tuesday hopefully by spring I will be able to move out with the kids,, and as for taking the bull by the horns I have tried some much the horns are broke