My 17 yr old is driving us crazy!
I have a 17 yr old daughter that is giving the entire family hell. Since about a month prior to her 16th birthday she claims she is treated like a child and she is going to be 16. She makes poor choices in boyfriends as well as cheat, lie, be defiant with parents and has been arrested for stealing from a Dept store. Now she is 17 and we can't take it any more. My husband and I have tried everything. From punishing her to playing psychology with her. The last boyfriend she had was in a gang and always in trouble and now today is in jail. We were able to break that relationship up before she was involved in anything serious. Now her new boyfriend is out on bail for assault (pistol whipping) with an unregistered weapon. (he is going on 18 this month) He smokes pot, cigerettes and drinks. My daughter comes home now with cigerettes (my husband and I don't smoke) and empty liquor bottles. We did home drug testing and thank god they all came up clean. We take the butts away when we find them but we are beside ourselves with heartbreak because we are raising her in a good home. She has gotten everything we think she wants including love. We now have resorted to not letting her get her license, not giving her any money and charging her room and board to live home. She wants this so she can have all freedom to do what she wants. She hates our rules and we forbid her to see this guy but that isn't working so we threw our hands up and said if you want to be an adult we will treat you like one. She did not get any new school clothes, she gets no rides to and from wherever she wants to go including work and school. Now there is nothing but anger in the house and I still have a 12 yr old girl to worry about as well. We tried counseling and after 3 months she refused to continue going. I checked into Military schools but they are too expensive. Anyone have any suggestions? Oh and by her having freedom means she only comes home to sleep. She doesn't come home after school and we don't see her till after 11PM most nites and the weekend not at all. HELP!!