Ok here's the deal me and my wife to be have been together for four years now we are not able to get her to orgasm. We can get right up to it and then it just goes away we have tried toys, I'm a massage therapist and I've done all I know in that area with my hands, and any thing els people have suggested. I have had some one tell me its just that she is 20 and that is like the hardiest time for a girl sexually and I have had some els say its all in her head like a mental block or something. But my ? Is do any of you have any in put on the problem anything helps. Thanks

We need to start with the simple stuff okay?

Is she on any medication? Anything at all? Even birth control?

Yes she is on birth control. The pill

Have you ever been able to get her to orgasm? I am assuming you have tried clitoral stimulation rather than vaginal stimulation.

Now its has not ever happened for her, and yes I have tried clitoral I have even tried strokes around that area I have learned form my massage friends that say should work.

Has she had a hormone workup done? Can she make herself orgasm?

No she cant. She says she can't get it to fell like I do.

Of course she can't feel like you do. You are a man, she is a woman. LOL

Has she had her female check up recently? If not I would suggest she do so. She may need a hormonal workup. Women have a certain amount of the male hormone, testosterone, that is responsible for sex drive and orgasm. She may have a low testosterone count.

She had to have a check up the last the school refilled her birth control they r mandatory check ups

But were her hormone levels taken? This is not always routine.

I don't know??