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  • Sep 6, 2007, 07:06 AM
    anna1023
    Should I try to get closure?
    OK here it is. I knew a guy for a long time. Well about 4 years ago I him ecards
    But did not tell him who I was. He had a girlfriend at the time which I did not know. I even told him if you want me to stop sending ecards let me know. He kept saying he wanted to
    Know who it was. Well his girlfriend was emailing me as a man. I responded to the e-mail
    Because I thought it was someone I knew. Well she tricked me and found out it was me.
    So she told me not to email her boyfriend and that I was loser an etc.. Well I let it
    Go I never e-mailed the man to explain. Well it's been 4 years and I know he is married to
    This woman. I was thinking about contacting him or If I were to run into him to explain what happened. For all I know his girlfriend than could have told him things that were not true. What should I do should I try to get closure or leave it alone. Until this day I still
    Wonder what really happened. I don't want to look back and wonder what really happened.

    Thank you
  • Sep 6, 2007, 07:39 AM
    SabbzR
    If it has been 4 years, let it lie for another 4.

    If you contact him again, there is a chance you could cause trouble in his relationship. Let the past lie, and know that he is happily married and move on.

    You don't want to come across as the stalker type do you?

    Hope this helps

    Regards
    Sebastien
  • Sep 6, 2007, 09:01 AM
    talaniman
    For the sake of your own emotional health, let this go. Curb your curiosity.
  • Jun 3, 2008, 09:12 PM
    tadita83
    I agree with talinaman. I had a relationship once that I felt I needed closure on, and I bugged the guy trying to get it. Well it only hurt me more because he was so insensitive to the situation. When I gave up on trying to get "closure" I then had my closure and I moved on with my life. I know its tough, but sometimes its just better to let sleeping dogs lie.

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