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  • Sep 4, 2007, 07:36 AM
    MimiGirl
    Uncomftable being nude
    Hello,
    I need some advice.. I don't know if what I am passing through something normal-ive been with my boyfriend sexualy for almost 2 months now- my problem is that even though we've been together sexually I still feel uncomftable showing my body to him.. we usually have sex with the lights turned off because of this-he also feels sometimes uncomftable with showing me entirely his body but I think I have this situation more of a big deal than he does.. the thing is that I have some strech marks around my tummy are and hips that I don't want him to see cause I don't want him to get discusted over it or anything.. I got these stretch marks cause before I use to be over weight but now I lost all the weight and I am now skinny(or so what people tell me).. he loves it when I get on top of him on that sexual position-dont get me wrong I enjoy that position as well-but feel uncomftable because when I am at that position he touches my body and sometimes I have this thing with him touching my tummy area cause I don't want him to think I am fat or him feeling little extra fat coming out while sitting ontop of him.. I don't know what to do.. I know I have some issues with my appearance but I need some advice.. iam I the only one like this? What should I do to feel more comftable nude around him?
  • Sep 4, 2007, 07:51 AM
    templelane
    Congratuations you are officially a woman!
    Everyone feels like this at one time or another (if they say they don't I think they're lying/deluded)
    You can't let the little voice inside you win.
    Fight against her, if you think something negative recognise it for not being true and try to think of something positive staright after. Your boyfriend will love you even if you have stretch marks, they will appear 10 times worse to you than to him because you worry about them.

    I remember when I first got together with my boyfriend I used to run about in a towel to avoid being naked. I used to get changed in the bathroom! I decided to try and move a bit out of my comfort zone bit by bit. You just need to stop listening to your inner critic and watch his face, I promise it'll be :D yay my girlfriend is naked!

    Also try soft lighting like a bedside lamp bent over, it is very flatering.
  • Sep 4, 2007, 10:07 AM
    statictable
    One of lifes many challenges. If only our eyes could smell. Your heart will bring others close to you and there's nothing strange about keeping the lights down... just tell him you're a bit shy which is true and move ahead. You'll be fine.
  • Sep 4, 2007, 10:16 AM
    justhaveaquestion
    If your confident with yourself he will be too // you ovi are not right now.. so make yourself feel good do something new get your nails done or your hair something that will make you feel positive and confident guys love that
  • Sep 4, 2007, 11:14 AM
    smoothy
    Look at it this way... you look far better at say 110 lbs with stretch marks than you did at 200 lbs. Everyone has flaws including super models. Airbrushes do wonders to photos let me tell you.

    Personally... I prefer a woman who takes good care of herself, is well groomed, (Shaved is even better) , and has a good personality and attitude even with flaws than I do a overweight woman with poor grooming, or bad attitude even if she has super model looks a flawless skin.

    Few women have flawless skin. Try not to focus on stretch marks... I'm sure it's the last thing on his mind.

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