Hi
I'm 16 years old and I have a question. My parents got divorced when I was 8, and my mom got a boyfriend right away, and eventually married him. I liked him then, he was nice, and my mom liked him, so I wanted her to be happy. They've had 2 kids since then, and now I feel like I'm totally ignored. My sister is 8, and she is very mean. She's brought me to tears with all the hurtful things she does, and I never cry. I get straight A's and never get in trouble, but my parents hardly acknowledge it. When I tell my mom how I feel, she just yells at me and says something like "well I'm sorry you're so unhappy, go live with your dad." They take the two kids and get family pictures with them, and then hang them up in the livingroom. My brother's 13, and I think he is noticing all the stuff now too. The kids never get in trouble. My stepdad has a lot of money, and the two kids get everything. They have so many toys and junk, that they don't even appreciate anything they have. They go to private school and have their perfect little lives. They have no clue what it's like to not have a lot of money. My mom and dad didn't have a lot of money when my brother and I were little, but we were good kids and appreciated toys and vacations. We lived in the country and we were really happy. Now, I feel like my mom's replaced us. She never talks to me, and when I want tto talk to her she is busy with the kids or something else. They go on vacations together, and leave my brother and I home. They go to football games, and they went to Chicago in the fall. I'm not overdramatizing either, I really feel like my mom has a new family and replaced us. Is this normal? Does this happen to all kids when their parents remarry? It's been going on since the day my sister was born. I just want someone to talk to, it feels like I have no one, and none of my friends would understand because no one's parents are divorced. Has this happened to anyone else? I've never known someone else to have this happen to them, and I just am tired of never having help from anyone but myself. Thanks for reading this, I hope it didn't end up to long :)
Thank You

I know how you feel, I am 15 and my mom is the same. I get all A's and such but she doesn't no it because she is always to busy with other things. She will drive 3 hours out of her way to get my brother shoes when I just get what is available near by. My mom hardly gets my name right, sometimes its mike, or alex, etc... She just guesses. So your not alone. If I need something I have to go spend my own money, but when my brother wants something my mom will buy it. He is 15 too so its not like he is young. Everything I work for my brother gets to do because my mom will fight with anyone to get him into something. He never gets in trouble too, if I get in a fight I get yelled at. If my brother gets in a fight its no big deal.

I don't no how you feel about your dad but maybe you should live with him, maybe your mom will realize how much she needs you. I can't do that because my dad wouldn't even feed me so he is much worse. Don't let what your sister says get to you. Keep trying to talk to your parents who knows one day they might listen and things will get better.

I would live with my dad, but oddly enough, I'd miss my mom too much. I love her so much, I just don't thinks she feels the same. My dad's a great person, I stay with him usually every other weekend. It's so easy when I'm with him, because he never remarried and I'm his only daughter, so I'm not ignored at all. I'm basically with both my parents equal amounts of time, and I enjoy being with my dad, but I"d miss my mom too much, that's kind of weird, as she never talks to me. I don't know, maybe it'll get easier when I go to college.