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The test results came bk I'm pregnant 6 months... I wanted to got the obortion dun but couldn't it wos too late but never mind now can cope with 1 kid.
The prob now is I don't know what to eat for my baby's health neither cani do neting go to college or work.life is hell. My stomach shows now and its embarrassing for me to coape with it,what to wear and how shall I keep healthy in pregnancy, help thanks!! :D
First not to be rude but thisis not text messages, normally it is best to use full sentences and proper full spelling.
Next what is your age, it sounds like you are very young, have you discussed this with your parents ?
And you should not be embarrassed, having a baby is a normal thing.
What I am concerned with is I have not seen any concern over the baby.
You need to get with the county health department if nothing else and get education in the proper care of the baby.
Salma,I was just wondering,Do you have any adults around you who is able to support you during the next trimester until the baby is born and after that to practically guide you on how to look after a baby and yourself.
Also financially what are your plans to cope or do you have someone who will support you with your decision to keep the baby?
Let me tell you it is not like looking after a doll or even a pet.
A baby is going to need you (if you plan to look after him/her by yourself) 24/7, especially during the first few years of life.The baby will need to be fed,bathed,nappy/diaper changed and this is not just one time a day, it is constant work all through the day.
There is also the need for you to rest well and look after yourself physically and mentally as it is normal for new mothers not to get enough sleep as the baby will be waking up every few hours of the night too and may not sleep during the day too.
Here's some information you might like to read...
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teenage pregnancy | What A Girl Needs
KEEPING THE BABY:
Keeping the baby will interrupt your life completely. There is no doubt that your world will be turned completely upside down and you can say goodbye to regular teen years! On the positive side, you have a child to care for and this child loves you unconditionally. There is no greater bond than that between mother and child. These days there is less stigma attached to single mothers or teen mothers and in general, people tend to be a little more forgiving than in past generations. With government financial support, a great health system in place and flexible learning options available, keeping the baby is a realistic option for most people in Australia.
ADOPTION:
Aside from abortion or keeping the baby, you also have the choice to adopt. If you feel that you are not in a position to keep the baby, yet you don't believe in abortion, adoption could be an option. Again, you need to research carefully but the positives are that you can give your child the greatest gift….. his/her LIFE! Yes, it will be painful to give your baby over but you are giving your child to parents who will love and care for him/her. You will have the memories of little feet and hands and the knowledge that you have given your child a great start.
DIFFICULTIES FACED BY PREGNANT TEENS:
Telling your parents – This can be one of the biggest challenges for many girls. Once you have faced up to informing your parents, and everyone has had some time to digest the situation, you can move toward planning and working out your options.
School – Schooling will no doubt be interrupted. However, there are always choices including TAFE college, correspondence, part-time, etc. There are even high schools who cater especially for pregnant teenage girls. You need to seek out a school guidance counsellor for further information.
Finances – Raising a child incurs expenses that your will need to consider. The government provides assistance for low income families as well as the general family allowance to help with the associated costs. You should contact Centrelink to find out what assistance you would be eligible for and plan your budget accordingly.
The Father – You will need to work out whether HE is going to be a part of your life and/or the baby's life. Your baby needs your strength and your love now and there's no time for games, chasing after boys who aren't worth it or parents who can't get along. If you've got a good guy who wants to stick around for the right reasons, great! If he's a player and has got you on a string…it's time to let go!
Friends – Your friendship circles are likely to change because your life and the things important to you have changed. True friends will remain and you will make new friends in more similar situations.
ADVICE TO THE PREGNANT TEEN:
It's really important that your give your baby the best chance of being healthy by being healthy yourself. You will need a well-balanced diet and do some light exercise. If you smoke…GIVE-UP! Choose a multi-vitamin especially designed to provide you and your baby the correct nutrients throughout pregnancy. Have regular check-ups with a doctor.
Make sure you set yourself up with a good support network. Parents, siblings, grandparents and trusted friends are all great to help out with support. In addition, find a doctor who you feel comfortable with. Find out where your local clinic is to get the baby weighed regularly and keep the telephone number handy for when you have questions about the baby.
Kids Helpline (1800551800) and Lifeline (131114) can be very helpful when you need advice at any stage.
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Heres some more info which will help you....
CbyC::If you are pregnant::Parenting::Healthy Pregnancy Tips
Healthy Pregnancy Tips
Nutrition
Healthy eating is important during pregnancy, to maintain your own health and to develop a healthy pregnancy. The most important things to remember about nutrition are:
Eat a balanced diet, selecting foods from each of the food groups.
Avoid foods that can harm your pregnancy.
Eat in moderation.
It's always important to discuss your food requirements with your doctor or nutritionist, as everyone is different, and you and your pregnancy may have special dietary needs.
During the first trimester (the first 12 weeks), it's important to ensure that you are eating enough required nutrients, as this is when the organs of the foetus first start to develop. Throughout your pregnancy, but particularly during this time, it is important to increase your intake of:
Protein: for building muscle and tissue. Found in red meat, beans, legumes, nuts and seeds.
Calcium: for strong teeth and bones. Found in dairy products (such as milk and cheese), soya beans and milk, some seafood (such as salmon or sardines), spinach, broccoli, and calcium supplements.
Iron: for building blood cells and preventing anaemia. Foods containing iron include red meat, chicken, fish, green leafy vegetables, wholegrain cereals, and dried fruit and nuts. Also eating foods containing Vitamin C (eg. Oranges) can help your body to absorb iron.
Folic Acid: for brain and spinal cord development of the pregnancy, and to prevent you from getting anaemic. Found in green leafy vegetables, breads, cereals, and fruit. A daily folic acid supplement is often recommended and can be found in the health food section of your supermarket.
Water: to make sure you stay well hydrated.
Avoid foods that may harm your pregnancy:
Alcohol should be removed from your diet, as even moderate amounts may result in low birth weight, smaller head circumference, mental retardation and congenital heart defects.
Caffeine intake should be limited to no more than 3 cups of tea, coffee, or cola per day.
Empty calories (such as sugar, chocolates, soft drinks and lollies) contain energy but no nutrients, so these foods should be eaten sparingly.
Avoid foods that may be contaminated with the listeria bacteria, such as rare meat, prepared food stored for more than 12 hours, takeaway chicken, soft cheeses and unpasteurised dairy products. Listeria is rare, but can have serious effects in pregnancy.
Handle raw meat and cat litter trays with caution, washing your hands and any tools with soap afterwards. Toxoplasmosis is a parasite found in these which can cause birth defects.
Eating in moderation means eating the suggested amounts of foods from each of the food groups. Eating for two does NOT mean eating twice as much as normal.
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Exercise
Exercise is important during pregnancy to maintain your health and well being, and to prepare your body for childbirth. The amount and type of exercise you do will be determined partly by the amount and type of exercise you used to do before pregnancy, and also the recommendations from your doctor or midwife. Generally, there are a few tips to follow:Do gentle stretches and exercises to warm up and warm down.
Take it easy, as your muscles are softer when you are pregnant.
Avoid overheating and extreme heat exhaustion.
Maintain a good posture to protect your spine and help prevent backache. Keep your spine straight, tuck your bottom under, and roll shoulders back and down.
Bend your knees and use your leg muscles for any bending or lifting movements.
Do not spend too much time lying on your back as this puts pressure on the blood vessels that supply the uterus.
Pelvis rocking, squats, abdominal bracing, spine stretching, and relaxation are all good activities to practice at home.
Common DiscomfortsThroughout the course of a pregnancy, it is not uncommon to experience changes in your body that may lead to minor discomfort. Such changes can include, but are not limited to:
Breast pain: this can be one of the first signs of pregnancy for many women. To minimise discomfort, it is important to get a supportive bra professionally fitted, as you may go up several sizes during your pregnancy. It is also normal for the nipples to darken and veins in the breast to become more obvious.
Morning Sickness: Intense nausea, vomiting, and sensitivity to smells that can occur at any time of the day or night - not just in the morning! It is unknown what causes morning sickness, but it is thought to be hormonal and occurs most often in the first trimester of pregnancy. Some people suggest eating small amounts of dry bland foods (such as crackers) first thing in the morning, eating small meals throughout the day to avoid an empty stomach and drinking lots of fluids.
Heartburn: Hormonal changes and pressure from the enlarging uterus on the stomach are the most common causes of heartburn. Eating small meals often, avoiding spicy foods, avoiding eating before bed, and eating slowly in an upright position may help to ease heartburn.
Swelling of fingers, ankles, and knees: Caused by hormonal effects on fluid retention. Try elevating your legs or lying down for short periods throughout the day.
Constipation and Haemorrhoids: Hormonal changes in pregnancy slow down the movement of bowel muscles, which can lead to constipation. Frequent straining on the toilet may damage pelvic flood muscles and cause haemorrhoids. To avoid constipation, eat a balanced diet including high fibre foods such as wholemeal breads and cereals, fresh fruit and vegetables, and water.
Antenatal Care
Antenatal (or pregnancy) care is important to maintain your own health and the health of your pregnancy. In the beginning, you may choose to receive care from your regular doctor, or you may prefer to deal with a midwife, obstetrician, or public hospital staff. The decisions you make about antenatal care may effect your birthing options.
The most common schedule for antenatal visits is:
When you first think you are pregnant
Every 4 weeks until 32 weeks
Every 2 weeks until 36 weeks, then every week until birth
However this is only a guide and your visits may be more or less regular depending on your own circumstances. Check with your health carer when beginning your antenatal care about the frequency and cost of visits.
It does not sound like you are thrilled about having a baby or being pregnant.
You make it sound as though the baby and the pregnancy are both a huge burden for you.
I have a possible solution.
Since it was too late to have an abortion,
Have you ever thought about giving the baby up for adoption??
There are many people who can't have babies and would love to adopt.
This way, after the pregnancy is over, you can go about your life.
Hopefully you'll be more careful to not get pregnant again though.
They make birth control for that.
OK so your pregnant that sounds scary but could you do something for me, and yourself look into adoption, get some nice parents and that way yyou know they have the best. You'll fell way better
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Originally Posted by salma_4215
OK so how did you find out you was pregnant. What happen at the doctors when you went in what did they make you do? Like take a blood test? Pee test? Or what?
♥ SaMmY
Hey! Abortion is for idiots! Just relax, and pray. It makes you feel so much better!
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Originally Posted by salma_4215
I thought I was pregnant ounce too..
An it was crazy I was depressed but after a few weeks I got excited.
I may not know you but you should have this baby and maybe put it up for adoption.
Or my grandparents been married since my mom was 4 an they always wanted a child togeather but it never happened and now there thinking about adoptin or helping young teens take care of there baby so if you need any help. Email me at [email protected].
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Originally Posted by AKaeTrue
I agree with this and to be honest I don't think you are mature enough and should consider adoption. I have a daughter but miscarried twins 3 months ago and feels that your attitude actually sucks. There are so many people who would do anything to have a child. You should grow up and decide if you can do what is best for this baby
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