Hi,well I am having a couple different problems with my girlfriend. My problem is that its been a month that I been with my girlfriend and we hardly ever pop kiss and I am always the one to go to her for one, she rarely ever tries to give me one and even when I am dropping her off at her house she just gets out of the car with out giving me a kiss. I take her to the gym everyday, we are rarely alone together spending boyfriend and girlfriend time and try to ask her if she wants to hang out after the gym and she always has an excuse and tells me she has to be home with her kid or needs to study, but it seems to be easier for her to make time with her friends but doesn't invite me because she says she needs time to be with her friends, she doesn't want to see me all the time because it can lead to problems and we should have space. I am so confuse I don't know what to do and I would come to her and talk about the issue that I need affection and why don't we kiss and if she likes me, and she says she will try to be affectionate with me and that she does like me but I feel like she's not doing much and sometimes I feel like maybe I am doing something wrong, I try to do everything in my power to get her to like me more. Then she always brings up when guys ask her out to places and that bothers me a little,and I know she talks to different guy friends on the phone and one of the guys she talks to she use to like a long time ago and he invites her to places a lot and I just wonder if she tells these guys she has a boyfriend and I know these guys just want one thing and she's an attractive girl and she says they are just friends and she's not going to do anything with them and doesn't like them and she acts all cool about it like its okay its just friends. She also calls me a lot but when we talk on the phone we always talk about something with her and she talks a lot about some girl she's having issues with or she talks about herself like she wants to improve her looks. I just wonder why did she get into a relationship with me? I wish I knew what's really going on in her mind, I don't think she's cheating on me, she hardly ever shows that she cares, all she does is call me a lot and go to the gym with me, if we won't boyfriend and girlfriend we would be great friends because we joke and laugh about a lot of things but as far as being a girlfriend she's not being affectionate at all, what do you think?

One month! Calm down buddt! And stop sweating the competition. She your girlfriend and if she wants to be with these other guys there is nothing you can do about that. So NEVER worry about that and if something is going on and you find out the you don't want her as a girlfriend.

I would advise you to step back at this stage and take it eay. No worrying about if she is giving you enough kisses and I tell you what stop answering the DAM PHONE when she rings! I bet your way too keen and way to available!! She needs space to see her friends that's great when she wantds to see yopu I bet you are jumping at the opportunity! Stop ding this get busy if you want more affection just play a bit harder to get Make her wait to talk to you on the phone! Let her sweat it out!! Stop talking crap because it sounds like your turning into her girlfriend not her noyfriend! Who cares if she doesn't kiss you when she gets out of the car!! Let it go for a whil;e and if she continues tell her she musn't be the one for you. Don't be scared of losing her or you will! Take it EASY
Are you sleeping with her??

Ill take your advice, well I slept with her once, I was getting worried because I started to think if she's not being effectionate and doesn't come to me for a kiss then she must not like me

My advice is right mate less is more let her com to you.

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Originally Posted by pedro123

she also calls me a lot but when we talk on the phone we always talk about something with her and she talks a lot about some girl shes having issues with or she talks about herself like she wants to improve her looks. i just wonder why did she get into a relationship with me?

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She's a shallow, selfish girl who's using you for a ride to the gym, but really isn't that into you. Being needy and clingy will just make it worse. Back off and get busy with other things. It may get her to show more interest, or it may not, but either way you'll be better off than you are now.

It doesn't sound like she has very much invested in this "relationship", if you can even call it that. Not to be blunt but I think you're wasting your time with this one. I'd put her aside and go in pursuit of something more meaningful.

Get a real girlfriend who likes you the way you like her. This is such a waste.

You all are just getting started. You may be a few steps ahead of her.
If it makes you uncomfortable, maybe get out now...

If you can handle it, keep going.
Don't expect her to be clingy though - not her age or stage...