Taking things too personal
Hi, I have a problem that really affects me in social situations. If I'm with a group of people and I'm making fun of someone. If someone makes fun of me, not just once, but for awhile, and if I don't have anything very creative or funny to say back I start getting moody. People can actually notice it on me. MY face gets flushed red; I feel I can't control my facial reactions; and I just have a scary look on my face that I cannot help. My thoughts keep going on and on about what is happening, but I'm not too sure what I am thinking. Can someone please help me.
Find the strength to stand up for yourself
Some people are like this, most grow out of it. But I believe that you have to stand up for yourself. I'm sure that when you really think about how many friends you have and how many people like you and want to just talk, you will realize you can get past this and you must have something to offer.
I remember when I was about 12 y/o I had the typical bully picking on me every chance he got and if he had an audience he did it even more. Well one day the verbal abuse became physical and he hit me (twice) in front of a girl I really liked. When I got home my Dad saw my face. He told me quite simply this punk will keep doing this every time he sees you, is that what you want?
He made me promise that the next time this happens that I would punch him back. He said it didn't really matter if I hurt him--ONLY that I sure as hell would feel better. (I did and he was shocked-never happened again)
I know that you didn't say that anyone was physical with you, but the point here is that it will continue if you don't stand up for yourself. The more you practice, the better you will become at it--trust me you'll feel better.
By the way I am not saying that you need to get physical. Good Luck!