All of you might get mad at first, but 'hear' me out, then if you need to, chew me out and tell me where to go, but read this finished, please.
OK, I was going to stay out of this one because when I first read this thread, I thought I was reading stuff written by elementary school kids who wanted to
act like grown-ups. I still have not changed my mind on this feeling because when I see your spelling and grammer, not to mention your childish answers, it makes me wonder what you pay attention to in school. Now, please don't take the following the wrong way,
I have nothing to gain by making you mad at me and I just mean to help you out a little bit here, so listen up, please....
First,
Clarencerx - your are 15, this is your ex, so you 'broke up' when you were 14!!!, and you've tried to hook up with other girls but can't forget her???? Get used to it, you will probably be rejected a few more times until you grow up. What interests you in school well enough to look forward to learning so that you can make plans to have a decent future before you can have a responsible relationship and keep it? What kind of job do you plan on striving for? Do you even plan on finishing school? These are the things you should be concentrating on, NOT being rejected by a girl who you will probably have forgotten a few years down the road. Plus, if you have thought of sex and experimented in this already with her without being safe, you just might not even have a future, with all the diseases and maybe even a poor baby out of this fantasy of yours. Please come on back to reality and get some education and grow up. There will be time for girls when you wake up and face the real world - then you will be ready for it.
Second,
beme - you are just as young and sparks in a kiss should be the last thing you should give advice on, as you are just a child yourself and have watched too much TV and forgotten about your studies and real future yourself. Do you also plan on finishing school, or plan on having one visit to the OB/GYN doctor after another because you discovered something in your life we all do (and yes it feels good, but you are too young!), but not going crazy or addicted to sex without mature emotions, while growing up to be productive members of society and staying healthy. With a signature of 'hottie was here' you are on the wrong path to any healthy permanent relationship.
Third -
Maxgrl242 - you are 13, and you want to seriously advise someone to 'follow their heart'. Honey, at your age, the heart is the last thing involved between a girl and a boy. It's realizing your newly found sexuality, that's all, and it should be handled as a treasure and not given away to the next best jerk who makes a compliment. What you advised was what you wished for yourself or heard somewhere and it sounded good. Please get real. Do most of you even know that you are not of legal age... and the only sound advice for you is to stop wanting to grow up so darned fast, because once there, there is no way back to the good old carefree days of fun and no responsibilities and worries.
Fourth -
Wowzers - If you did as well in school as you do in your SMS shorthand, you might turn out a winner. But if you are on the 'rebound' at the age of 15, and have your eyes on someone else already, how many boys do you intend to go through before you grow up and meet the right guy - but might be too emotionally and physically messed up to even know it. It might be real cool acting like a grown up, but wait till you get there, you'll wish you were 15 again and had the chance to start all over.
Fifth -
Beenkie - how old are you? 13??? How are you doing in school? Dear, you should be having fun being a teen, and also not trying to grow up so fast. Like I said before, once it's gone, you can't go back, and you'll really miss that part of your life if you don't give it a chance. When I was 18, and still not of legal age then, I wished I was 21, until I had to really face reality - and my childhood was spent taking care of two little baby brothers since I was 11 years old. I had no choice and had a real 'cinderella' life and hated every minute. Thank goodness my only 'escape from reality' was time spent in school and my 'drug' was cigarettes (not so good), so I was lucky there. It took me a long time and lots of therapy (in my 30's - so it can really stick to you and mess you up) to get over the bitterness of what I missed. Is this what you want for yourselves???
Last but not least -
Klassik - OK, Deon, you chickened out on your age,
but pushing and being pushed and even being beaten is not cool at all. You actually want a 'dumb broad' who beats you back?? Are you that much into pain already? You need to stick to hobbies, friends and girls that will treat you with respect, so that you can gain some self-respect of your own. Otherwise, you'll wind up a wuzz and when things get too bad for you to handle, you'll probably hit someone with a baseball bat with all the anger you'll build up inside. Is that what you want for yourself?.
What would your grandmother's say? I'm about her age, and believe it or not, I can relate to each and every one of your problems, I've been there, done that, and glad I'm out of it. I don't envy this era in which you have to grow up into, but please take life slow and have some fun before you have to face the hard reality of being a grownup. While having this fun, please try and remember that there are dangerous disease out there that you can catch, the wrong people you could meet, and the life you could throw away before it even gets a chance to begin.
Try talking to your parents or grandparents, or do you think that they didn't have the same anxieties growing up as you do now? WRONG!!! We also have our memories, so pick our brains and get our advice, you'll be surprised. We mean well, honest - so don't write us off just because we are a little old and serious most of the time. We also had our giggles, heartaches and crushes when we were your age and survived it all.
So, here are a few pointers: go to school, learn basic english, spelling and maybe even enjoy some literature (real stories, not just the TV) join study groups; get into some sports to let out some of that extra energy; make some real friends because those are rare; stay as young and carefree for as long as possible; talk to your parents or grandparents sometimes; or even stay on this forum and talk to some of us 'oldies' - we might surprise you. Just keep one thing in mind, NONE of us mean you any harm and are serious about helping you grow and develop into good, caring young people because you are our future.
Also make sure that you treat people with respect - that way you get it back and more. You can keep your dreams and hopes, but keep at least one foot on the ground so that you will not fall so hard. Don't worry about a little rejection, as it never killed anyone and makes you stronger.
Gosh, I sound like a coach on a sports team right now, but I bet you know very well what I'm trying to tell you - so go out there and start living, and keep both eyes open without those rose-colored glasses, OK?
I wish each and every one of you all the best and a happy future, just don't rush it.
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