So I need help with my selfconfidence and I need to be more outgoing... like I am so shy its not even funny everyone alsways asks me why I am so mad or not in a good mood just because I don't talk but I really am not in a bad mood and I am really trying to be outgoing but there is something inside of me that just holds me back I don't know why and it sucks really bad... and when I am around girls it just gets even worse I don't know why... all I want is this girl that I can be with and that loves me for who I am but I just can't seem to find her because I am so shy and it is so bad that I am thinking about not even trying anymore... can anyone give me andy advice?

Advice for outgoing?

Well I am pretty outgoing myself...
But I used to suck when I was a kid...

Why ain't you trying?
Had worse situations or what?

Honestly you just kind of have to push yourself out of your comfort zone. Its easy to not try and talk to people its hard to try and talk. You kind of have to change your thinking as well. Instead of thinking "oh man if I say something everyone will think I'm an idiot" start thinking positively about everything and instead think about how interested people will be in hearing what you have to say. Every time you open your mouth not everyone is going to be supportive or even give you open arms but keep trying.

That's exactly how I think I just overthink myself but I don't know how to change that

Every time you start having those negative thoughts acknowledge them and then say "nope not listening to that, sorry you're wrong". Soon enough your brain will correct itself. Its all of matter of trying to correct how you think. Instead of trying obsessing on the thoughts that psyche you out you just acknowledge them, negate them and replace it with a positive thought.

It's actually how I got myself to be more outgoing as a teenager.

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Originally Posted by jman18

thats exactly how i think i just overthink myself but i dont know how to change that

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Just do it... that's what you need...

I guess I have to try that... well honestly I really don't understand the reason like why am I like this its not like I am ugly or a creep or something like that so I don't know why I'm so shy

O.K. tell me one incident?

Tell me one thing in which you will get or got shy?

Talking to girls