Hello everyone.

I have seen and heard advice all around about relationships. One which has kept me in question is "keep them on their toes (interested/chasing)." This would obviously come with being unpredictable.

What I would like to know his how do people go about this, I would feel like I am trying to go against what I want by doing this, or that I would be unable to stay unpredictable to a woman. It seems to me like it would be to hard to stay that way, is there a simple way to go about this?.
Would this come down to me not having enough of my own life? Lol...

You could go about this by not being around when she wants you to be. Breaking dates at the last minute, let her see you with other women. If she is really interested in you, the last one would keep her on her toes for sure.

Depends if you want to be a playa or something along those lines. I personally would just worry about being me and having your own life, strong and independent with your own fufilling life. A partner should expand your life not create it!

Dating should be light and fun, if you go full into it, you may fall prey to the emotional trap = Unattractive - As is needy!

At the end of the day be yourself and if the other person doesn't like it, well stuff them! If you can't be yourself then how you going to be in a relationship with them?

I am also sure there are plenty of articles and information you can find on the net about seduction and women etc. Just GOOGLE it!

You want to keep a woman on her toes. You know that sounds like someone who is into the relationship for what he can do to the woman, not what he can contribute to the relationship. I could be seeing this through a totally different set of eyes and perspective here, but if someone I dated was constantly doing things to "keep me on my toes", out the door he would go.

I think what you want to know is how to keep a relationship fun and interesting. The easiest way is to be yourself, and pay close attention to her, to gauge her moods, and be able to listen at the right time, and keep her comfortable within the relationship. Be a good listener, and pay attention, would be the way to go, and leave those playa games, and tactics alone.

Game playing does not lead to a good adult relationship.

I don't know guys, I like a little mystery in my men and the game playing doesn't bother me, because that's just what it is a 'game'. Its actually oneupsmanship. The problem is calling it quits when the game gets out of hand. This game has been played since women found out men are so transparent.

We haven't heard from any other women yet, and there is still time.

Have any of you guys ever heard of the old saying 'a man chases a girl until SHE CATCHES HIM'. That phrase is the whole issue in a nut shell.

And, Jiser, sometimes 'the game' leads to a lot of compatibility, understanding and loving.

Game playing is for children. I think a person needs to just be themselves and treat the girl with respect and honesty. When you start playing games someone is bound to lose.
I figure if you have to play games with a person, you don't have enough confidence in yourself to be yourself.

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Originally Posted by LUK3Y

Hello everyone.

I have seen and heard advice all around about relationships. One which has kept me in question is "keep them on their toes (interested/chasing)." This would obviously come with being unpredictable.

What i would like to know his how do people go about this, i would feel like i am trying to go against what i want by doing this, or that i would be unable to stay unpredictable to a woman. It seems to me like it would be to hard to stay that way, is there a simple way to go about this?...
Would this come down to me not having enough of my own life? lol...

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Not so much "playing games" or anything like that. What I meant was being unpredictable so to say. Because I do understand that when you become too predictable it becomes routine, and from what I have experienced people get bored of too much predictablility or routine and it is no longer a challenge (or interesting/fun) for the other person involved (I'm talking long term relationships).

So if what you are asking is how to keep her interested by appearing unpredictable, then there are all sorts of things you can do. Surprise her with notes, phone calls, flowers. Let her know you care... without being expected to. I mean like if its her birthday she would expect a card but if its an ordinary Tuesday and you send her a card, its unpredictable right? Also if you become interested in things you know she likes that's another sure win. Imagine how surprised she would be if she saw you listening to her favorite artist's cd.
Is this more the answer you were looking for?

First you have to have the female in your life and figure what kind of person she is. You can't apply that unpredictable stuff to all females. Get the woman and pay attention, and remember you didn't play a game to get her, and you shouldn't have to play a game to keep her. Be yourself so she can honestly judge her own attraction.

I agree with Talaniman. Not all women are the same. Some like predictability. That is why you need to get to know a person first. Games are just games. Being considerate and thoughtful is nice.

All I know is that those who like to keep others on toes... r the laziest of the lot not willing to do anything in a relationship but just want to see how they get attention... and in order to get attention they resort to silly ways of keeping others on toe... Why can't u keep relationships simple for each other?

The question is when playing these game or being yourself will the woman give you more respect because I know through past relationships that I have shown respect and received non back, so maybe the games are a little better as she did them to me

But considering the card thing the woman will then be expecting cards on certain days and set of saying that you don't buy her presents anymore and use that against you. The real question I want to ask is how can you make her be gratful of what she gets and not just buy her presents on command?

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Originally Posted by mjcoyle

the question is when playin these game or being yourself will the woman give you more respect because i know through past relationships that i have shown respect and recived non back, so maybe the games are a little better as she did them to me

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Boy, are you out in left field. What do you mean by 'the games are a little better as she did them to me'...

Do you mean she paid you more attention, the more gifts you presented her with?

You can't buy affection, you can't buy love, or closeness. I can just see the look on her face when you give her something.

Tick

Keep a woman chasing and on her toes? Yeah... good luck with that:)

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